October 28, 2012
molly published this at 3:00 am
Independence is about paradox.
Only by internalizing the fact that you can, in the most healthy of ways (and on a theoretical level), exist without others are you free to interact with others effectively. This does not mean that you do not rely upon the cable guy to connect you to Mad Men. This means that only when you understand that your self worth does not rely upon the flattery or approbation of others are you free to be truly independent.
• Make your own choices.
• Rely on your own counsel.
• Trust your gut.
• Understand that you can weather any storm (be it financial, personal or material).
Establishing or maintaining a business or organization requires a certain je ne sais quoi: an independence that drives you. …An independence that compels others to follow you and an independence that sustains you when you think that you’ve lost your mind.
Every assault against independence is rooted in fear. Every little pinprick of doubt has its source in fear.
Fears are like mold that fester in the dark parts of your soul. Faith and action are the light that banish such fungus and enable you to move forward.
Being an entrepreneur is not for everyone. If you’ve read this far, you know that at your core, you have the capacity and yearning to be one. Entrepreneurs are not foolhardy, however. Managed risks are the key to forward movement. Blind gropings and mere wishes are not.
As a rhetorical question, ask yourself how your fears keep you from fulfilling your aspirations and potential. For what’s it’s worth, in my opinion, fear is good. Fear(s) are the hidden stumbling blocks that your subconscious sees (or perceives to be true). When those stabbing panic thoughts laced with fear surface, pay attention.
Write them down. And then knock them down, one at a time.
You may listen to your fears, but do not *heed* them.
Fear of failure is overwhelmingly the most common fear for the general public, not just entrepreneurs, but let’s address this one right now.
What happens if you fail?
Define failure. Losing your business? Losing your money or investment? Losing your family? Losing your life? Put some scope in the mix. There are those who think that oversimplifying things to this degree sounds childish.
These are they who are content to work for the pellet that comes out of the slot once a week when they push the button, by the way. They value “security” above all else.
Security is found within, not without. A bit esoteric, but true, nonetheless.
To quote on of my favorite running backs of all time, “Remember, tomorrow is promised to no one.” (Walter Payton). You could get hit by a bus tomorrow. Yes, put plans in place for contingencies. Yes, understand the projected gains and losses within your respective industry, but in order to truly succeed, you must be willing to suspend your fear of the unknown.
Back to paradox: when you are truly, authentically and organically comfortable with what you, as a person, have to offer (and are willing to stake your future on it), opportunity opens. People are drawn by that je ne sais quoi because THEY DO NOT HAVE IT, although they recognize it and wish to be a part of it.
Your faith in yourself leads to your independence. Understand who you are, what you have to offer and bring it.
What will you do to “untie” yourself from your fear?
Molly Cantrell-Kraig is a woman with drive. Possessing an innate sense of purpose and a pragmatic, solution-based approach to empowering people, she fused these two traits in order to establish Women With Drive Foundation. Based upon its founder’s personal history, Women With Drive Foundation is a means through which Cantrell-Kraig may effect change on both a micro and macro level. By providing women with something as essential as personal transportation in order to transition them from poverty to prosperity, she, through Women With Drive Foundation, seeks to empower women to help them help themselves. Through this action, the individual applicant benefits, as does society as a whole. Follow Molly on twitter as @mckra1g or @WWDr1ve (Women With Drive Foundation) or “Like” them on facebook.