October 28, 2012

Are you tied to your fears?

molly published this at 3:00 am

Independence is about paradox.

Only by internalizing the fact that you can, in the most healthy of ways (and on a theoretical level), exist without others are you free to interact with others effectively. This does not mean that you do not rely upon the cable guy to connect you to Mad Men. This means that only when you understand that your self worth does not rely upon the flattery or approbation of others are you free to be truly independent.

• Make your own choices.
• Rely on your own counsel.
• Trust your gut.
• Understand that you can weather any storm (be it financial, personal or material).

Establishing or maintaining a business or organization requires a certain je ne sais quoi: an independence that drives you. …An independence that compels others to follow you and an independence that sustains you when you think that you’ve lost your mind.

Every assault against independence is rooted in fear. Every little pinprick of doubt has its source in fear.

Fears are like mold that fester in the dark parts of your soul. Faith and action are the light that banish such fungus and enable you to move forward.

Being an entrepreneur is not for everyone. If you’ve read this far, you know that at your core, you have the capacity and yearning to be one. Entrepreneurs are not foolhardy, however. Managed risks are the key to forward movement. Blind gropings and mere wishes are not.

As a rhetorical question, ask yourself how your fears keep you from fulfilling your aspirations and potential. For what’s it’s worth, in my opinion, fear is good. Fear(s) are the hidden stumbling blocks that your subconscious sees (or perceives to be true). When those stabbing panic thoughts laced with fear surface, pay attention.

Write them down. And then knock them down, one at a time.

You may listen to your fears, but do not *heed* them.

Fear of failure is overwhelmingly the most common fear for the general public, not just entrepreneurs, but let’s address this one right now.

What happens if you fail?

Define failure. Losing your business? Losing your money or investment? Losing your family? Losing your life? Put some scope in the mix. There are those who think that oversimplifying things to this degree sounds childish.

These are they who are content to work for the pellet that comes out of the slot once a week when they push the button, by the way. They value “security” above all else.

Security is found within, not without. A bit esoteric, but true, nonetheless.

To quote on of my favorite running backs of all time, “Remember, tomorrow is promised to no one.” (Walter Payton). You could get hit by a bus tomorrow. Yes, put plans in place for contingencies. Yes, understand the projected gains and losses within your respective industry, but in order to truly succeed, you must be willing to suspend your fear of the unknown.

Back to paradox: when you are truly, authentically and organically comfortable with what you, as a person, have to offer (and are willing to stake your future on it), opportunity opens. People are drawn by that je ne sais quoi because THEY DO NOT HAVE IT, although they recognize it and wish to be a part of it.

Your faith in yourself leads to your independence. Understand who you are, what you have to offer and bring it.

What will you do to “untie” yourself from your fear?

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Molly Cantrell-Kraig is a woman with drive. Possessing an innate sense of purpose and a pragmatic, solution-based approach to empowering people, she fused these two traits in order to establish Women With Drive Foundation. Based upon its founder’s personal history, Women With Drive Foundation is a means through which Cantrell-Kraig may effect change on both a micro and macro level. By providing women with something as essential as personal transportation in order to transition them from poverty to prosperity, she, through Women With Drive Foundation, seeks to empower women to help them help themselves. Through this action, the individual applicant benefits, as does society as a whole. Follow Molly on twitter as @mckra1g or @WWDr1ve (Women With Drive Foundation) or “Like” them on facebook.

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3 Comments to “Are you tied to your fears?”

  1. October 29th, 2012 at 9:04 am
    Bruno Babic said

    Molly, I am so grateful to you for this awesome post about overcoming our daily fears.

    We all have fears. Now it’s just the matter of taking action that’s doing what has to be done. Getting down to tackling the hardest looking tasks FIRST before doing anything else.

    By the way, now I am at the phase in my life where I am striving to get completely financially independent by making money online because I have been living on my parents’ mercy since surviving my 7 year long painful struggle to start making money online.

    I’d say that facing my own daily fears coupled with following my top passions by the instructions of the bestselling book “The Passion Test: The Effortless Path To Discovering Your Destiny” is the way to go.

    As I am now up and firmly standing on my feet wholeheartedly determined to finally win the game of making money online, I’d appreciate any of your encouragement and support while trying to make myself accountable for achieving my ever desired financial freedom through running an automated online business.

    There are few things why I haven’t succeeded so far, and I feel that one of the main ones is that I let many different kinds of fears sneak into and stay within me over the years thus day in day out making me adopt many bad habits. Anyway, luckily I have always been a fighter for finally reaching and fully enjoying my ever desired luxury playboy millionaire lifestyle and am ready to go till the very end. :)

    On that note, I’d appreciate if you could visit my first ever blogpost of my first ever blog and help me stay accountable to finally reaching my own online and life success while at the same time bravely facing and overcoming my daily fears and sharing my experiences about it with the likeminded people like you.

    In advance many thanks.

    Let’s WIN IT together!! :)

    Bruno Babic – Thinking BIG guy and Passionate Online Entrepreneur excited about leading a Luxury Playboy Millionaire Lifestyle supported by earning multiple streams of cash from an automated online business

  2. October 30th, 2012 at 10:06 am
    Graham Dragon said

    A good article. It reminds me a little of one of the best books by Dale Carnegie which I read over 40 years ago and applied in my life ever since (with occasional lapses, as we all have). No, it was not “How to Win Friends and Influence People”, although I did read and try to apply that too. The book was “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living”. If any of your readers have not yet read that, they should get to the library or bookshop right now. Worries and fears only have the power we allow them to have. :)

  3. November 3rd, 2012 at 7:43 pm
    Aruni Gunasegaram said

    Very well written and very timely for me. I often have to remind myself of “what it is I have to offer.” As an entrepreneurially minded individual, we often have so much to offer we lose sight of what we can offer to each situation at a certain time even when we are not starting up something of our own but are helping others on their business building journey.

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