August 25, 2013
molly published this at 3:00 am
I don’t know about you, but when I’m supposed to learn a Life Lesson, I’m presented with various derivations of the Lesson until I have no choice but to recognize it. Whether it’s what I refer to as a “Jiminy Cricket” message from my socnets, a RL friend on the street, or sometimes even through a billboard (kinda sorta like Steve Martin in the movie L.A. Story) I am confronted with an opportunity to learn until I recognize it as such.
“A man is never more truthful than when he acknowledges himself a liar.” ~ Mark Twain
Paradox has been an underlying theme of these messages over the previous year, and the above quote from Twain is an example of my most recent encounter with the concept of duality: A (wo)man is most honest when she admits to herself to being less than truthful.
We cannot move forward until we are honest with ourselves, even if (especially if?) that means acknowledging the times when we lied to ourselves.
For what it’s worth, we usually lie to ourselves most easily. I will move heaven and earth when I’ve made a commitment to someone else. My word is my bond and when I fall short of an obligation, it gnaws at me until I can put it right.
However, up until recently, I’ve been able to sugar coat selective truths to myself. Whether it’s a workout or meeting a daily goal, I’ve rationalized why it can be moved to another day or otherwise postponed. Ultimately, though, this is no way to live.
I have to look at myself in the mirror. I have to sleep at night. I’m the only person who will spend the rest of my life with me, and I want to respect myself. We erode our confidence in ourselves and ultimately lessen the effectiveness our actions have for others when we give ourselves short shrift.
“…and the TRUTH shall set you FREE!” ~ Fletcher, from Liar, Liar
In order to be fully independent, we must be able to give ourselves an honest assessment: of our abilities, our responsibilities and our opportunities to grow. Once identified, we can formulate a plan to achieve these goals. Very oftentimes, simply identifying these key indicators enables others in our lives to appear: guides, mentors and teachers. A more accurate explanation is something I recently tweeted about having one’s antennae tuned to the right frequency.
“When the student is ready, the Teacher will appear.” ~ Buddhist Proverb
These are the “Jiminy Crickets” to which I referred earlier. These are the spiritual, physical and mental guideposts that we use on our path to independence. What’s amazing is that while we are following our path, we are the light to others. But it all starts with each of us taking a good, hard (loving) look at ourselves and calling ourselves on our own shenanigans. Moving forward, in truth, we are well on our way to independence.
Molly Cantrell-Kraig is a woman with drive. Possessing an innate sense of purpose and a pragmatic, solution-based approach to empowering people, she fused these two traits in order to establish Women With Drive Foundation. Based upon its founder’s personal history, Women With Drive Foundation is a means through which Cantrell-Kraig may effect change on both a micro and macro level. By providing women with something as essential as personal transportation in order to transition them from poverty to prosperity, she, through Women With Drive Foundation, seeks to empower women to help them help themselves. Through this action, the individual applicant benefits, as does society as a whole. Follow Molly on twitter as @mckra1g or @WWDr1ve (Women With Drive Foundation) or “Like” them on facebook.