April 28, 2010

How To Be An Honest Blogger Without Being A Jerk

published this at 1:06 pm

Do You Like These Sandals?


I ordered my daughter a new pair of Stride Rite sandals for the summer. We went to the store to pick them up, and I slipped an excited toddler (she loves fashion at the ripe age of 2) into a pair of brown and gold sandals.

“Do you like them?” I asked her, thinking I knew what her response would be.

My honest little Micah said, “No.”

To be honest or to be nice

What kind of blogger are you? Are you the honest blogger? You would have told me that you didn’t like those sandals point blank, like my daughter, without giving a care to the time, effort and money that went to making those sandals part of my kid’s wardrobe.On the other hand, do you consider yourself to be a nice blogger? You say what people want to hear. You would tell me that shiny footwear was the most adorable creation since ruffled dresses. You would also agree with the critic who hates the sandals. You want to be everybody’s friend.

There are pros and cons to each disposition.

If you’re always honest,

If you’re always nice,

The solution: be both

Season your words with salt, the old adage goes. Be honest and be nice. It’s easy to express your opinion when you know the majority will agree with you. Perhaps your blog post reads, “Having a baby is a miracle.”What if a group will not like, possible hate, your opinion? It might be difficult to say, “A woman should never have an abortion.”

What do you do when you need to express yourself on a controversial topic?

Be specific

My daughter said she didn’t like the sandals. I later discovered she loved the sandals and didn’t like that they were a smidge too large for her.The most important way to be an honest, non-jerky blogger is to be specific when you write. Describe your opinion as thoroughly as possible. Make a series on your topic if you can’t fit it into one post.

Get out there and blog your heart out. It’s what people really want.

How do you manage to be an honest blogger without being a jerk?

Terez Howard operates TheWriteBloggers, a professional blogging service which builds clients’ authority status and net visibility. She regularly blogs at Freelance Writing Mamas . You’ll find her on Twitter @thewriteblogger

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11 Comments to “How To Be An Honest Blogger Without Being A Jerk”

  1. April 28th, 2010 at 2:11 pm
    Rachel Cotterill said

    It’s clearly possible to be honest, nicely. Or to be nice, honestly, if you prefer. I wouldn’t like to lie on my blog, or state any opinion I don’t hold, yet I like to believe I’m nice… but then I don’t really blog about contraversial topics so I have it easy 😉

  2. April 28th, 2010 at 3:08 pm
    Beth Robinson said

    My two-year old adores shoes, too. We got her a build-a-bear dragon and she picked out little gold boots for him to go with his gold wings.

    Good job with the advice on combining the blunt and diplomatic for a happy medium. It’s something that is often difficult, whether in person or on the screen.

  3. April 28th, 2010 at 3:21 pm
    Terez said

    Aren’t 2-year-olds cute?

    It definitely can be difficult to balance honesty and politeness. But it can be done.

    Also, we have to remember that some people will be angry with our opinion no how wonderfully we present it. The fact is: We can’t be everybody’s friend. I’m OK with that because I want to be myself.

    If people don’t like me, that’s fine. If people do like what I have to say, great! In the end, I’m true to myself.

  4. April 28th, 2010 at 6:01 pm
    --Deb said

    This is actually a balance I’ve always struggled with. My Mom had a book about sun-signs when I was little that said about Scorpios: “If you don’t want to know what they really think, don’t ask a Scorpio because they’ll always tell the truth.” Apparently we’re known for being tactlessly blunt–and it’s true. I don’t lie, or at least not without very, very good reason, but that means over the years I’ve tried to find nice ways of saying it when I disagree … you can be honest and nice about it, too, even if it’s more work than being tactful.

    But then, this is something I’m SURE you know about, since you come across as one of the nicest bloggers around.

    (And, yes, you can believe me.)

  5. April 28th, 2010 at 8:11 pm
    Terez said

    @Deb Thanks. I don’t know what my sign is, but I actually tell people, “If you don’t want to know the truth, don’t ask me.” I was just telling a friend those very words last week.

    I do try my utmost to be tactful. I know I fall short many times. But I’d rather people know the truth than a sugar-coated lie.

  6. April 29th, 2010 at 10:03 am
    Terez said

    @Rachel It’s definitely easier to be nice when we don’t blog about things that might stir a controversy. Thoughts flow freely. It’s great that you stick to your true self.

  7. May 1st, 2010 at 12:17 am
    Mitch said

    This is something I do all the time, so maybe I’m at least equal to the game. I believe that one’s words do have a lot of power, not believing that old saw about “words will never hurt you.” So, I’m honest, but I’ll go out of my way to not hurt feelings if I possibly can.

  8. May 3rd, 2010 at 3:36 pm
    This Eclectic Life said

    How strange to find this post today, since it is an issue I had to face just yesterday! I long ago decided not to blog about religion or politics, because I didn’t want to deal with controversy. Who knew that a restaurant review would kick up a fuss with me?
    I live in a small town, and there is an award winning restaurant that I really don’t like. I was suffering from indigestion, and wanted to write a review panning it … but wanted to “be nice,” mainly because I didn’t want any locals to be angry at me.
    My solution? Humor. I had an inner dialogue with “My Muse,” who converses with me occasionally on the blog. She wanted to stick it to them, I wanted to play nicely … in the course of the “conversation,” I was able to state my views on the restaurant, but if it comes back to bite me in the rear I will blame it on Her!
    A sense of humor and good manners go a long way toward helping a blogger be honest!
    I like your post!

  9. May 25th, 2010 at 10:34 am
    david said

    Hey, great post! It makes me think twice about posting a quick article without re-reading what ive said, to see if i actully agree with myself, lol. Thanks

  10. May 25th, 2010 at 11:31 am
    ME Liz Strauss said

    That’s a great point! Reread what we write to be sure that it says what we really mean. :)

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