October 5, 2008

How to Make Everyone and Everything Nicer Without Lifting a Finger

published this at 8:57 pm

Find the Answer in You


Want to do a nice thing for your friends? Here’s how to make everyone and everything nicer without even lifting a finger.

Close your eyes.
Unplug. Untie. Relax.
Turn off the words, sounds, and pictures in your head. Fade to black.

Look for the faint blue light by the hole on the back your eyelids. It takes a while but you’ll see it. Then look through the hole and you’ll see the stars. You can see the universe right there from wherever you are.

It’s the strangest thing, but you can be inside and outside at the same time. It takes patience and practice to find that hole. It’s hard to stay that relaxed. It’s about letting go. It’s finding out that it’s okay not to be in control.

I found it by accident when I was trying to sleep one night. I thought it was a memory of the sky. But it’s not.

Your cells are smarter than your brain. Let them show you.

Just put yourself out there, sit in the space, and trust.
No words, no sounds, no ideas.

People and stars are made of the same stuff.

It’s not hard to know what you know when you give yourself space.

You’ll come back feeling more relaxed, smarter, and happier.
And the people you meet and everything you see will suddenly be a whole lot nicer.

–ME “Liz” Strauss
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37 Comments to “How to Make Everyone and Everything Nicer Without Lifting a Finger”

  1. October 5th, 2008 at 9:19 pm
    Todd Jordan said

    Wonderful. That’s one reason I turn off the media some time before I got to bed. It helps me get clear and relaxed.

    I love how you mention we are all made of the same stuff as stars. :)

  2. October 5th, 2008 at 9:24 pm
    schizo said

    you found my preciousssssss
    my preciousssss is miiiineeee

    wouldnt have lasted a day in internship if i didnt have this place.
    i should really write about this you know.


  3. October 5th, 2008 at 9:25 pm
    meryl333 said

    Like a clay elephant & clay mouse are different,yet of the same stuff. So are we of the same stuff as each other… and the stars.

  4. October 5th, 2008 at 9:28 pm
    ME Liz Strauss said

    Hi Todd,
    Night is a special time for me. I really believe we can go out there and be in our minds with the stars. We’re meant to shine alongside them. When we unplug and turn off the noise we do. :)

  5. October 5th, 2008 at 9:30 pm
    ME Liz Strauss said

    Hi Schizo,
    You’re a wonder. I hope you write your universal thought, and you keep it close to you. It’s your magic. You’re meant to do something special.

  6. October 5th, 2008 at 9:38 pm
    Ed Borasky said

    “We are stardust, we are golden,
    We are billion year old carbon.
    And we got to get ourselves back to the garden.”

  7. October 5th, 2008 at 9:43 pm
    AV Flox said

    Just reading this was like being swept into a wave and down from the ivory tower. Out of my head, into space-time. Thanks, Liz.

    (I’m here via @Pistachio)

  8. October 5th, 2008 at 9:52 pm
    ME Liz Strauss said

    Hi Ed,
    What a perfect response. We are all of those . . . if we could get ourselves back to that garden. I’m doing my best to help us remember. Looks like you’re doing your part too. :)

  9. October 5th, 2008 at 9:56 pm
    Amy Derby said

    Ah, the things we accidentally figure out when we can’t sleep!

    Very beautiful Liz. :-)

  10. October 5th, 2008 at 9:59 pm
    ME Liz Strauss said

    Hi Amy!
    Ain’t that so. I’ve met lots of friends that way. . . . :)

  11. October 5th, 2008 at 10:02 pm
    --Deb said

    Interesting! My own little universe, right inside me…

    (Although, psst! There’s a typo at “closer your eyes”)

  12. October 5th, 2008 at 10:09 pm
    Amy Derby said

    Liz, I totally need to get on the star-friend plan. Usually all I meet when I can’t sleep are barnyard animals. (Why should sheep have all the fun?)

    And now, I’m thinking you’ve probably already cooked up your own liz-patented social network in the sky that’s behind your eyes. :-)

    Liz: changing the world one nap at a time


  13. October 5th, 2008 at 10:19 pm
    ME Liz Strauss said

    Hi Deb,
    I’m not sure that I think that universe inside me. I’m thinking I just find access there. But who knows exactly how it works?

    Thanks for your help with the typo. :)

  14. October 5th, 2008 at 10:21 pm
    ME Liz Strauss said

    Hi Amy,
    Naps are the best part. I sometimes just refuel by looking at the pictures that come and don’t sleep at all. It’s like watching movies now. . . . Once there was once that was feature about saving the world . . . but that’s a plot of a different color. :)

  15. October 5th, 2008 at 11:50 pm
    Kathy Sena said

    Liz, this is beautiful! Who knew that something so wonderful and helpful to others could come from not being able to sleep one night. Of course, you have to be open to such things in the first place. I’m glad you are.

    I heart about this post on Twitter. So glad I did.

  16. October 6th, 2008 at 7:33 am
    ME Liz Strauss said

    Hi Kathy!
    Thanks for taking the time to read it and leave a comment. Now it’s connected us. That’s the best part of all. :)

  17. October 6th, 2008 at 8:16 am
    Karen Putz / DeafMom said

    I discovered this same thing back when I was eleven and floating face down in the lake, relaxing while holding my breath. I’ve never thought to write about it!

    When I was pregnant with my third, I taught myself hypnobirthing for my homebirth, which is a powerful way to quiet the mind and focus. One of the things I focused on was that very same “light” that comes with closing my eyes.

  18. October 6th, 2008 at 9:08 am
    soultravelers3 said

    Yes, yes, yes…peace is ALWAYS present, we just forget to look inside. I have been meditating daily for 28 years and could not live with out that inner replenishment.

    Thanks for being another voice sharing in with the world. Reminds me of that old Bette Midler song…”From a Distance”

    We really are one with the universe!

  19. October 6th, 2008 at 9:09 am
    Teresa Morrow said


    So poetic, simple and to the point. When you are able to rest your mind, you will see more than you can think is possible. If you are open to it. I enjoy my time when I meditate and go to my special place for me….this is the time that helps me stay connected to my true self. I love the vibrant colors that I see when close my eyes, relax and clear my mind.
    Thanks for a great post to start out this week.


    Teresa Morrow

  20. October 6th, 2008 at 9:24 am
    Linda Hampton RN, MSN said

    We forget to look inside. It’s the first place to look. It’s hard to at first find that silent place inside but it can be done with practice. So quiet the mind, close your eyes and enjoy the scenery. Thanks for the post.


  21. October 6th, 2008 at 10:08 am
    Richard Dale-Mesaros said

    Great Liz,

    I had a teleconference with a spiritual/business coach the other day and one thing he mentioned was whenever you’re meditating, if a thought comes into your head, acknowledge the thought, then set it aside and continue trying to clear your mind etc.

    It really works to disconnect yourself from the past and future and focus on the now!

    Warm regards,

    Richard :)

  22. October 6th, 2008 at 10:46 am
    ME Liz Strauss said

    #7 Hey AV!
    Welcome! Glad you found your way here! You’re not a stranger anymore!

  23. October 6th, 2008 at 10:47 am
    ME Liz Strauss said

    Hi Karen,
    You’re an amazing woman. You’ve always been way ahead of my curve. I wonder what else you’ve got up your sleeve. :)

  24. October 6th, 2008 at 10:49 am
    ME Liz Strauss said

    Hi soultravelers3
    I think about you and your journey. We’re under the same stars, and we’re in the same Internet. Isn’t it nice the way our minds found a way to meet? :)

  25. October 6th, 2008 at 10:49 am
    ME Liz Strauss said

    Hi Teresa!
    Sounds like you’ve found the way to keep yourself inside your life. :)

  26. October 6th, 2008 at 10:51 am
    ME Liz Strauss said

    Welcome Richard,
    It’s good to know that. If we consciously acknowledge a thought and with purpose set it aside, it’s like laying down our work and our worries until we’re ready to work on them again. Thanks for the reminder.

    Thanks for coming over to leave it here.

  27. October 6th, 2008 at 10:53 am
    ME Liz Strauss said

    #20 Hi Linda!
    Welcome! Once we get familiar with the scenery inside, we might even start to think of it as home. :)

  28. October 6th, 2008 at 1:21 pm
    Roxanne Darling said

    Loved it Liz! What a resource you are – even in the early dawn and the middle of the night. :-)

    Love Rox

  29. October 6th, 2008 at 1:38 pm
    Maria Palma said

    Hi Liz!

    This is a very inspiring post. It’s amazing what can happen if you just meditate in peace and quiet. This is something I do on a daily basis and it helps with my creativity and energy.

    You Rock!

  30. October 6th, 2008 at 5:29 pm
    Jeff Sass said

    Cool Post Liz… It’s not only with your eyes closed that you can escape to this “space.” As a child I spent many nights staring at the ceiling in the dark until I could see the little pixels of space moving toward me (or me moving through them — I was never quite sure which)… very much the same sensation you describe, and yes, I have noticed that even as an adult.. that “space” has never left (and it is not restricted to the dark ceiling). For all we know (and think we know) there is so much that remains cool and mysterious… and that’s a good thing. Thanks for reminding me.

    – Jeff

  31. October 6th, 2008 at 5:43 pm
    ME Liz Strauss said

    Hi Roxanne,
    We might be in different time zones, but out thoughts are synchronous just the same. :)
    Love returning.

  32. October 6th, 2008 at 6:13 pm
    ME Liz Strauss said

    Ah Maria,
    Peace and quiet . . . my mom used to say that. What lovely words.
    I think I might write about them very soon. :)

  33. October 6th, 2008 at 7:06 pm
    Davina said

    Liz, this was out-of-this-world! Your words caught me and carried me away from a cloudy day.

  34. October 7th, 2008 at 5:13 am
    ME Liz Strauss said

    Hi Jeff!
    Yeah, the human is something, isn’t it. I’m not sure we’ll understand either what that space is about. I’m sure we have to know to use it just right.

    Nice to know that you know about it too. Glad to see you here. :)

  35. October 7th, 2008 at 5:14 am
    ME Liz Strauss said

    Hi Davina!
    Thank you. It nice of you to let me know that something I wrote could help in that small way. :)

  36. October 7th, 2008 at 1:25 pm
    Lew Newmark said

    I just ran across you thru my search for blogs dealing with CSS, like my blog and thru Yaro Starak’s blog.

    Great idea and I will have to try it out sometime soon.

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