How to Make Everyone and Everything Nicer Without Lifting a Finger

Find the Answer in You


Want to do a nice thing for your friends? Here’s how to make everyone and everything nicer without even lifting a finger.

Close your eyes.
Unplug. Untie. Relax.
Turn off the words, sounds, and pictures in your head. Fade to black.

Look for the faint blue light by the hole on the back your eyelids. It takes a while but you’ll see it. Then look through the hole and you’ll see the stars. You can see the universe right there from wherever you are.

It’s the strangest thing, but you can be inside and outside at the same time. It takes patience and practice to find that hole. It’s hard to stay that relaxed. It’s about letting go. It’s finding out that it’s okay not to be in control.

I found it by accident when I was trying to sleep one night. I thought it was a memory of the sky. But it’s not.

Your cells are smarter than your brain. Let them show you.

Just put yourself out there, sit in the space, and trust.
No words, no sounds, no ideas.

People and stars are made of the same stuff.

It’s not hard to know what you know when you give yourself space.

You’ll come back feeling more relaxed, smarter, and happier.
And the people you meet and everything you see will suddenly be a whole lot nicer.

–ME “Liz” Strauss
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Image source: NASA Image

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  1. says

    Wonderful. That’s one reason I turn off the media some time before I got to bed. It helps me get clear and relaxed.

    I love how you mention we are all made of the same stuff as stars. :)

  2. says

    you found my preciousssssss
    my preciousssss is miiiineeee

    wouldnt have lasted a day in internship if i didnt have this place.
    i should really write about this you know.


  3. meryl333 says

    Like a clay elephant & clay mouse are different,yet of the same stuff. So are we of the same stuff as each other… and the stars.

  4. says

    Hi Todd,
    Night is a special time for me. I really believe we can go out there and be in our minds with the stars. We’re meant to shine alongside them. When we unplug and turn off the noise we do. :)

  5. Ed Borasky says

    “We are stardust, we are golden,
    We are billion year old carbon.
    And we got to get ourselves back to the garden.”

  6. says

    Just reading this was like being swept into a wave and down from the ivory tower. Out of my head, into space-time. Thanks, Liz.

    (I’m here via @Pistachio)

  7. says

    Hi Ed,
    What a perfect response. We are all of those . . . if we could get ourselves back to that garden. I’m doing my best to help us remember. Looks like you’re doing your part too. :)

  8. says

    Liz, I totally need to get on the star-friend plan. Usually all I meet when I can’t sleep are barnyard animals. (Why should sheep have all the fun?)

    And now, I’m thinking you’ve probably already cooked up your own liz-patented social network in the sky that’s behind your eyes. :-)

    Liz: changing the world one nap at a time


  9. says

    Hi Amy,
    Naps are the best part. I sometimes just refuel by looking at the pictures that come and don’t sleep at all. It’s like watching movies now. . . . Once there was once that was feature about saving the world . . . but that’s a plot of a different color. :)

  10. says

    Liz, this is beautiful! Who knew that something so wonderful and helpful to others could come from not being able to sleep one night. Of course, you have to be open to such things in the first place. I’m glad you are.

    I heart about this post on Twitter. So glad I did.

  11. says

    I discovered this same thing back when I was eleven and floating face down in the lake, relaxing while holding my breath. I’ve never thought to write about it!

    When I was pregnant with my third, I taught myself hypnobirthing for my homebirth, which is a powerful way to quiet the mind and focus. One of the things I focused on was that very same “light” that comes with closing my eyes.

  12. says

    Yes, yes, yes…peace is ALWAYS present, we just forget to look inside. I have been meditating daily for 28 years and could not live with out that inner replenishment.

    Thanks for being another voice sharing in with the world. Reminds me of that old Bette Midler song…”From a Distance”

    We really are one with the universe!

  13. says


    So poetic, simple and to the point. When you are able to rest your mind, you will see more than you can think is possible. If you are open to it. I enjoy my time when I meditate and go to my special place for me….this is the time that helps me stay connected to my true self. I love the vibrant colors that I see when close my eyes, relax and clear my mind.
    Thanks for a great post to start out this week.


    Teresa Morrow

  14. says

    We forget to look inside. It’s the first place to look. It’s hard to at first find that silent place inside but it can be done with practice. So quiet the mind, close your eyes and enjoy the scenery. Thanks for the post.


  15. says

    Great Liz,

    I had a teleconference with a spiritual/business coach the other day and one thing he mentioned was whenever you’re meditating, if a thought comes into your head, acknowledge the thought, then set it aside and continue trying to clear your mind etc.

    It really works to disconnect yourself from the past and future and focus on the now!

    Warm regards,

    Richard :)

  16. says

    Welcome Richard,
    It’s good to know that. If we consciously acknowledge a thought and with purpose set it aside, it’s like laying down our work and our worries until we’re ready to work on them again. Thanks for the reminder.

    Thanks for coming over to leave it here.

  17. says

    Hi Liz!

    This is a very inspiring post. It’s amazing what can happen if you just meditate in peace and quiet. This is something I do on a daily basis and it helps with my creativity and energy.

    You Rock!

  18. says

    Cool Post Liz… It’s not only with your eyes closed that you can escape to this “space.” As a child I spent many nights staring at the ceiling in the dark until I could see the little pixels of space moving toward me (or me moving through them — I was never quite sure which)… very much the same sensation you describe, and yes, I have noticed that even as an adult.. that “space” has never left (and it is not restricted to the dark ceiling). For all we know (and think we know) there is so much that remains cool and mysterious… and that’s a good thing. Thanks for reminding me.

    – Jeff

  19. says

    Hi Jeff!
    Yeah, the human is something, isn’t it. I’m not sure we’ll understand either what that space is about. I’m sure we have to know to use it just right.

    Nice to know that you know about it too. Glad to see you here. :)

  20. says

    I just ran across you thru my search for blogs dealing with CSS, like my blog and thru Yaro Starak’s blog.

    Great idea and I will have to try it out sometime soon.

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