How to push through your boundaries

During a recent radio interview about our work through the nonprofit mentioned within my bio below, our conversation ranged pretty far “off the reservation.” Although specific points about the mission, methods and particulars of our organization were made through the course of our conversation, we also took a decided detour into the metaphysical.

For this, I lay the blame squarely at the feet of Ralph Waldo Emerson.

Point of order: I love the 1994 version of Little Women. Part of me would love to exist in that world (except I would prefer indoor plumbing). That aside, I love the idea of the woods, existentialism and the fusion of the natural and spiritual worlds, which leads me to one of my driving precepts, as articulated by the aforementioned Mr. Emerson:

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies with in us.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Paradox is a hoot and a half, and it is a constant source of amusement to me to find that the challenges we experience externally in our lives are extrapolations of the conflicts that we encounter WITHIN, writ large. Chew on that for a second.

Have a problem controlling your impulses? Chances are good there is someone in your life whose lack of control directly affects your life and/or business. Have a difficulty making payroll on a consistent basis? Perhaps there is a conflict within where you are uncomfortable with accountability. Worthiness?

Of course, this is an exceedingly superficial analysis and what I also refer to as Oprah Armchair Quarterbacking. That said, if you flinched while reading, perhaps it would behoove you to do some self examination this afternoon or throughout the week.

Are you familiar with the theory that we only tap into 10% of our brain capacity? According to the link cited, in actuality, our grey matter is churning along all of the time, and operating at a rate decidedly higher than the assumed paltry ten percent.

That being said, each of us, if called upon to be honest, knows that (s)he is “sandbagging.” What is our SOUL doing while the mind is counting all those beans and keeping the body’s trains running on time? If you are reading this post, you know that you haven’t yet called upon your reserves. Within you lies a dormant wellspring of energy, just waiting to be tapped and focused.

For what are you waiting? An invitation? A crisis? The other shoe to drop? The right moment?

Consider this all of the above.

We really ARE vast and few of us ever begin to explore the possibilities and trajectories our gifts can take us. What lies within you? Have you ever been brought to the edge of your familiar experiences and been asked to step beyond The Known? You realize, of course, that beyond this self-imposed boundary is growth?

What holds us back? Fear of success? Are we afraid that people will expect things of us? Are we afraid that we’ll lose people in our lives that we love if we grow beyond them? Afraid of losing what we have? Are we afraid of losing the Bird in the Hand?

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ~ Marianne Williamson

I can’t tell you what’s in your personal abyss. I can tell you that every time that I’ve stepped out in faith, I have been able to help more people. I’ve been able to find out things about myself that add to my quality of life. That I’ve met amazing people who increase my joy and satisfaction with my life.

That’s pretty exciting. What are you waiting for? Have you already taken steps to explore your Abyss? Please share your story with us in the comments below!


Molly Cantrell-Kraig is a woman with drive. Possessing an innate sense of purpose and a pragmatic, solution-based approach to empowering people, she fused these two traits in order to establish Women With Drive Foundation. Based upon its founder’s personal history, Women With Drive Foundation is a means through which Cantrell-Kraig may effect change on both a micro and macro level. By providing women with something as essential as personal transportation in order to transition them from poverty to prosperity, she, through Women With Drive Foundation, seeks to empower women to help them help themselves. Through this action, the individual applicant benefits, as does society as a whole. Follow Molly on twitter as @mckra1g or @WWDr1ve (Women With Drive Foundation) or “Like” them on facebook.


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