April 16, 2013
rosemary published this at 9:08 am
By John Murphy
Forests have been demolished for the paper that has been taken up by books written about things to do to be happy at work, and in you life overall. In my experience, I think it has been an awful waste! I would say that 10% of those books have been great, 50% are pretty ok, and the other 40% absolute rubbish!
However, I have not come across too many that talk about things NOT to do! Maybe it is just me, but I learn best by not just knowing what I should do, but also by what I should not do!
So, in the interests of those like me, here is a list of 5 things to quit doing – and I promise you that not doing these will make you happy!!
1. Being fearful
Fear is something that is so prevalent, but no one wants to talk about it. People fear losing their jobs, not getting their targets, not getting that promotion – and even, people finding out that they are not as good as they think they are.
They are afraid to start that new business, go for that new job, change their career. And what happens? They do nothing!
They do not take that first step today because they are afraid that this is not the right moment, the right time of the year etc.
Now is the right moment – take the first step today!
Moaning about anything only makes you feel worse – along with those who have to listen to you.
There will always be something that is wrong or not to your satisfaction, but don’t moan – do something to correct it!
Focus on doing whatever it takes to make it right. Also, don’t participate in general moaning – be the one who demands that you all do something about it. Show leadership!
Let others speak! Yes, I know you have loads of pearls of wisdom to share with all and sundry, but remember the golden rule – if you want to be listened to, you must first be a good listener.
No one listens to the orator on the orange box! So, practice the art of listening, and then you will become the person whose opinions are valued.
Also, just so we are clear – being silent is not the same as listening! For most, when they are silent they are not listening, just thinking of what they are going to say next!
There is nothing worse than being that boring “know it all” who keeps telling others what they should know, and, by definition, what he or she knows!
I have seen it far too often as people progress in their careers they take on the air of the pontificator and the fountain of all knowledge. Very often it is well meaning, but it just doesn’t work – you sound like a bore!
The sad thing? Even when you do have something to contribute, no one notices!
Share knowledge with humility, don’t lecture.
5. Not letting go
Last, but not least, and this one is a biggie. Let’s be honest, this challenges us all! This creates such a bad atmosphere and destroys the culture you want.
We all work in teams, and not letting go destroys any hope of that team growing and flourishing.
We all make mistakes, we all get things wrong – so forgive and move on. If you don’t, you will let this become a cancer in your business – and I don’t say that lightly or glibly.
What would you add to this list?