30 Comments to “Questions to Get Closer to You: Question 6”

1. July 11th, 2007 at 2:32 pm
   doug mitchell said

   My trait: A mentor must be an active listener…and be able to extract the real you versus what tends to fall out of your mouth when asked a question.

2. July 11th, 2007 at 5:16 pm
   ME Strauss said

   Hi Doug!
   Welcome! Finally we meet.
   Sorry you had to wait to get here.

   It’s a great point that a mentor needs that kind of perception and ability to stand up to me. Yeah. I don’t want someone I can dance around. No. What’s the point then. Without vulnerability I won’t be able to grow.

3. July 11th, 2007 at 6:29 pm
   Mike said

   Doug,

   That was perfect! Let me know where to find a ready supply of those folks!

   Mike

4. July 11th, 2007 at 8:12 pm
   ME Strauss said

   Yeah, Mike,
   I could use a dozen or two.
   Or one of you would do.

5. July 12th, 2007 at 1:14 am
   Yoav said

   Experience (Real world knowledge)

6. July 12th, 2007 at 4:44 am
   Karin H. said

   Hi Liz

   Only one trait? OK then, trust.

   Trust as in trusting me to be able to grow, trust in that the easy chemistry between mentor and student is a relaxed one, trust to have – if needed – a shoulder to cry on available, trust that it’s two way traffic (as doug says) – not a monologue or worse a dictate.

   But then I’m very lucky

   Karin H. (keep It Simple Sweetheart, specially in business)

7. July 12th, 2007 at 6:00 am
   ME Strauss said

   Hi Yoav!
   Yeah, real-life experience is important to me too. A mentor relationship could be equal for me, but I would want to share it with someone who had some life experience that I did not.

8. July 12th, 2007 at 6:04 am
   ME Strauss said

   Hi Karin!
   You have THE mentor that explains how you know to wish for the best. Once you have experienced a true mentor, you just don’t want anything else.

   Yeah, trust. Inside trust is authenticity and vulnerability. Right next to them are unconditional love and generosity of spirit. A listening heart who comes with us on our journey to guide us along is a gift indeed. What better sounding board to sort our thoughts and worries than someone we trust?

9. July 12th, 2007 at 6:39 am
   Karin H. said

   A listening heart who comes with us on our journey to guide us along is a gift indeed. What better sounding board to sort our thoughts and worries than someone we trust?

   You’re painting again

   Karin H.

10. July 12th, 2007 at 6:41 am
    ME Strauss said

    Aw, Karin,
    I so love when you point that out.
    Perhaps I should get a netcam to show you my studio too.

11. July 12th, 2007 at 6:44 am
    Karin H. said

    Your ‘back-room’?
    

    Karin H.

12. July 12th, 2007 at 6:47 am
    ME Strauss said

    Wow! I had no idea these two posts could possibly come to a fork in a road. You are magic!

13. July 12th, 2007 at 8:11 am
    pelf said

    A mentor must be somebody who knows how to manage human resources, not only finance. This is very important because mentors these days pay exceptionally more attention on who gets how much, and how much goes into which project that they fail to see how all these money-talk has or will impact their mentees.

14. July 12th, 2007 at 8:49 am
    ME Strauss said

    Hi Pelf!
    That’s a good skills in anyone who is helping someone enter business. Most folks grow with a non-business relationship to money. Learning how to look to a budget as a measure of when to invest and when to hold back from risk is a skill we cna all use a second informed opinion to help us with.

15. July 12th, 2007 at 11:24 am
    Brad Shorr said

    Honesty.

16. July 12th, 2007 at 11:35 am
    ME Strauss said

    Hi Brad!
    Yeah, all of the feedback in the world isn’t worth much, if we don’t know what to believe. I’m with you there.

17. July 12th, 2007 at 11:46 am
    Mike said

    Liz,

    One of me is always at your service! (Doffs cap and bows low)

    Mike

18. July 12th, 2007 at 11:52 am
    ME Strauss said

    Thank you, sir.
    [wide, large curtsey, and a grin]

19. December 28th, 2007 at 11:03 am
    Todd Jordan said

    Humility!

20. December 28th, 2007 at 4:42 pm
    ME Liz Strauss said

    Great choice, Todd!
    Mine might be generosity.

21. December 29th, 2007 at 10:22 pm
    isabella mori said

    just one? that’s tough. there’s no one quality. but i guess there’s a few indispensable ones. one of them would be that she or he “gets me”.

22. December 29th, 2007 at 10:30 pm
    ME Liz Strauss said

    That’s a good one. I can’t even find another way to say it.

    But I’d want that too.

23. December 30th, 2007 at 5:06 am
    Sarah said

    Honesty – I give it so I expect to receive it. There’s nothing worse than people not being honest with you. If I’m rubbush – tell me but also tell me how I can improve (suppose you could say constructive criticism)

24. December 30th, 2007 at 10:00 am
    ME Liz Strauss said

    Sarah!
    Welcome!
    You would have liked my mother. She used to say, “Give me a theif before a liar. At least I’ll know what he took.”

    Without real information, I feel blind. I need the truth too.

25. December 30th, 2007 at 12:17 pm
    Sarah said

    I love that saying – never heard it before but it definitely rings so true!

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