August 6, 2008

Social Networking in the World of Life

published this at 7:26 am

Time to Network with Humanity

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In this new online world, we choose how we spend our time. We define our place. We build our reputation. We can spend endless hours in those endeavors.

As we establish an onlne presence, do we miss opportunities to have a life, be fully present, to be fully human?

What if we bring our social media and social networking skilss back to the the world our where we are eating, sleeping, and living? How might it change and how might it change us?

Social Networking
in the World of Life

What if we take our social networking off line and outside the world of business?

What if we steal an hour to meet people we’ve never talked to before?

Do think that time might give us more inisght, more skills, and more energy to reach out to the people in our lives and in our business circle?

  1. Have a conversation with someone who is alone. It’s not hard to find someone who is shut-in, sick, or cannot get out to see a starry night. Make an hour to go visit. Your conversation last through many lonely nights for you as well as for the person you visit.

  2. Use the telephone to call someone who’s not in your email address book. Approach the conversation with a beginner’s mind. Ask that person how they meet new people. Then sit back and listen.

  3. Learn about the communities in your community. Go alone to a restaurant in your neighborhood or town. Get to know the person who serves you. Find out about the people who frequent that space. Explore the connections.

  4. “Friend” the people you encounter this week. Ask them questions of the sort that might be in their profile. Make up your question of the day before you leave home. Where are going? What do you do for fun? What do you wish would change soon?

  5. Use your eyes to listen for what people aren’t saying, but want you to know. Watch how people respond to you and the things around them. Notice how each person’s response reflects their mood or attitude. Notice the way you respond to them.

  6. For one day, trade in smiles and conversation, rather business cards. Give yourself extra points for the laugh of a child.

Moving outside our circle of family and friends is the definition of networking. Giving first is the mantra that makes networking worthwhile. Let’s not move all of our great giving to only those we meet through a computer screen.

When we get more social offline in a truly human way. We bring depth and insight to our online presence.

What sort of nonbusiness offline social networking do you recommend?

–ME “Liz” Strauss
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21 Comments to “Social Networking in the World of Life”

  1. August 6th, 2008 at 8:23 am
    Miz Liz said

    Liz. Was just having this conversation (via email of course) with a friend yesterday. We both miss the human contact. My goal is to start volunteering again; I lost that path as I got busy with my own stuff.

  2. August 6th, 2008 at 8:32 am
    Ramkarthik said

    I have had a few friends with whom I have spent the best time of childhood. Now I have almost lost contact with them but thanks to social networking sites that still keep us in touch. I always wanted to meet them again but time doesn’t permit. Though I’m planning to make a call to one of them in the coming days and go to my previous flat during my college vacation time.

  3. August 6th, 2008 at 2:32 pm
    --Deb said

    What? Talk to REAL people?? Eww!

    (grin)

    Actually, I spent all of Saturday afternoon with a group of women that I would never have known if it wasn’t for the fact that we all knit, spin our own yarn, and blog about it–which is how we all hooked up. If it weren’t for the knitting and the internet, I never would have met any of them, and I’ve got to say, we had a great time together!

    In person, and everything.

  4. August 6th, 2008 at 5:40 pm
    ME Liz Strauss said

    Hi MizLiz,
    It took me a few months to realize that connections online don’t replace the need to meet people where we live. Good on you!

  5. August 6th, 2008 at 5:42 pm
    ME Liz Strauss said

    Hi Ram,
    Find time to keep connected to the one you like the most. You won’t be sorry that you did. :)

  6. August 6th, 2008 at 5:43 pm
    ME Liz Strauss said

    Hi Dab!
    Yeah, real people can be messy . . . but there’s nothing like them. I agree. :)

  7. August 6th, 2008 at 7:44 pm
    Jef said

    This is the entire reason that I refuse to text message.

  8. August 7th, 2008 at 12:25 am
    Tabs said

    Liz,
    Thanks for the reminder, for years now my niece and i exchange actual written letters, I make her do it even though we can text, email etc

    I think the most important point you make is about listening with our eyes, you don’t even have to try it with strangers look within your family or close friends, who isn’t really saying what is going on in their lives. A lot of the time we don’t want to pry but you can do something without making the receiver of your kindness feel less than they are.

    I have randomly gifted people I know a having a hard time money, I send them a card with a little something in it, when people get back to you with stories of how that little act of kindness helped out you feel good for years.

    There are so many ways to connect with people, thanks for sharing in this post.

    -Tabs

  9. August 7th, 2008 at 5:59 am
    Richard Dale-Mesaros said

    I still believe in the REAL thank you note; to heck with email. Networking has to be personal and same goes for a thank you.

    Here are my thank you cardinal rules:

    1. Must be sent same day; any later and the effect diminishes.
    2. Must be hand-written.
    3. Must be on a card that has an front cover associated with a strong passion/interest of the recipient.
    4. I usually throw in some surprise or other, like shiny gold stars or a sticker etc.

    Have fun with this!

    Yours with boundless enthusiasm,

    Richard :)
    Chief Deal Weaver
    http://www.BlackWidowNetwork.com

  10. August 7th, 2008 at 7:50 am
    All Things Metal Clay » Blog Archive » Networking: online and off said

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  11. August 7th, 2008 at 8:47 am
    Luc Debaisieux said

    Words of wisdom… we should definitely keep “top of mind”. Thank you.

  12. August 7th, 2008 at 5:19 pm
    Rosa Say said

    Fabulous coaching Liz; we all need to talk story more than we do. The aloha we have to share with each other is so abundant; it just waits for us to use it.

    Your list speaks to some wonderful initiatives. If I may add a very easy one too: Be an eager responder! Seize those opportunities that come your way and actively engage, resolving you will no longer be a passive observer. I am working on this one myself, especially with those I see every single day and know I take for granted. The offline “rabbit holes” we sometimes fear we will get trapped in usually are much quicker to deal with than our online ones!

  13. August 7th, 2008 at 6:25 pm
    ME Liz Strauss said

    Hi Jef,
    I text information and an occasional hello. Text conversations don’t work for me either.

  14. August 7th, 2008 at 6:28 pm
    ME Liz Strauss said

    Hi Tabs,
    Yeah, I think that if you pay attention as you describe we can know a whole lot more and it can enrich our lives in the ways you say. People tell their story in everything they do. We can’t help but do so. :)

  15. August 7th, 2008 at 6:30 pm
    ME Liz Strauss said

    Hi Richard,
    I’ve never heard the rule about the card front before . . . hmmm that being so, I’ve some interesting passions. :)

  16. August 7th, 2008 at 6:32 pm
    ME Liz Strauss said

    Thanks, Luc!
    Great to see you again. :)

  17. August 7th, 2008 at 6:34 pm
    ME Liz Strauss said

    Hi Rosa,
    Without those offline conversations, I found that part of my life wasn’t there. I love my online relationships, but I like the surprise and response of people’s eyes when they laugh — you only get that in person. :)

  18. August 7th, 2008 at 9:00 pm
    Richard Dale-Mesaros said

    Thanks Liz,

    Actually, the other day I wanted to send a thank you to our web development lady and called her boss to find out what she was really into, so I could find an appropriate card. The answer was “camping and pole dancing”. Hmmm, needless to say, I had a difficult time finding the right card!

    You might want to check out
    http://www.Borealispress.net for some fantastic cards. I order them by the two-dozen.

    Warm regards,

    Richard :)
    Chief Deal Weaver
    http://www.BlackWidowNetwork.com

  19. August 8th, 2008 at 6:39 am
    ME Liz Strauss said

    Hi Richard,
    I read this last night and tried to image exactly how that combination fits together and whether the person who named it was joking. :)

    Thanks for the link to the cards. :)

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