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September 23, 2007

Unconditional Dots Between Fathers and Daughters

ME Liz Strauss wrote this at 12:16 pm

Connecting dots with The Idea Dude

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Liz challenged me to write about a topic quite a while back. For the longest time, it never got written. Like seeing the first rainbow after rain, some things are just so darn hard to put into words. I was relating to her how my daughter danced into my life 13 years ago and this year literally danced into the world with great success. I was so proud. Liz said…

Why don’t you write a post about fathers and daughters? …this is it!

As long as I can remember, my daughter never walked to me. She always ran, whether it was at the airport, meeting her at school or anywhere where there were more than 20 feet between us. She ran.

This week, as I walked through the front door, she bounded down 2 flights of stairs, flung her arms me and hugged me like there was no tomorrow. When I asked what was so special, she simply said…

Just because…

At that moment, the clarity she brought to our relationship blew me away. Why should there be reason?

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Liz’s dad understood this long before I did. So it’s not surprising that he features so prominently in her blogging goal. Most daughters are proud of their fathers, as they should be. I won’t try to convince you how outstanding mine was. I’ll just tell that it is so. Her dad was not just part of her legacy but surely part of her destiny too.

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I suspect that Connie’s dad helped her realize that every dot connects. This lifelong Daddy’s Girl tells us one of the best gifts he gave was her conversational heritage.. He connected to Connie in a very special way and now she adds that “special” to all the dots she finds.

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There is nothing more beautiful than the tribute that Sheena wrote for her father. The ending is priceless…


He’s the man who gave me more
Than ever I could see
And now that I am grown
His heart lives inside of me…

Can’t think of a better way to end this post than with two lines from John Mayer’s song about Daughters.

I know a girl
She puts the color inside of my world…

May the dots be with you!


Vern, The Idea Dude

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14 Comments to “Unconditional Dots Between Fathers and Daughters”

  1. September 23rd, 2007 at 3:00 pm
    Alina Popescu said

    I wish I could have remained a daddy’s girl. I am mommy’s girl now, after a long and painful self-educating process. And it hurts less :) Anyway, it is nice to know what the other side of the story looks like. I knew it from other examples, but it’s good to be reminded how it should be.

  2. September 23rd, 2007 at 6:17 pm
    Joanna Young said

    Vern, I’m still here and I’m still interested, but some things just won’t fit into the confines of a comment box…

    Joanna

  3. September 23rd, 2007 at 6:19 pm
    ME Strauss said

    Hi Alina!
    I’m sad you lost a hero. I’m glad you gained one. :)

  4. September 23rd, 2007 at 6:20 pm
    ME Strauss said

    Hi Joanna!
    How nice of you to make your presence known>

  5. September 23rd, 2007 at 8:45 pm
    Vernon Lun said

    Hi Alina, I think the most important thing is that in life we experience at least one unconditional relationship between two people. I’m glad you found yours.
    Vern

  6. September 23rd, 2007 at 8:46 pm
    Vernon Lun said

    Hi Joanna, I hear a friend who is listening with an open heart. For that I’m grateful. Thanks for reaching out letting me know.
    Vern

  7. September 23rd, 2007 at 9:42 pm
    April Groves said

    I love the relationship between Daddies and their Daughters. It is a magical thing to behold. My daughters are blessed with a wonderful daddy. So am I. I don’t typically linky love myself in comments sections…but this is for my Dad. I didn’t think Liz and Vern would mind.
    :)

  8. September 23rd, 2007 at 10:10 pm
    Connie Reece said

    Vern, I felt the tug at my heart when your daughter ran down the stairs to welcome you home. What a special bond you two have. Thanks for mentioning me and my dad in your post. Without ever knowing it, he did help me to connect the dots.

  9. September 24th, 2007 at 12:29 am
    Vernon Lun said

    April, your dot fits this post exactly. Thanks you so much for sharing.
    Vern

  10. September 24th, 2007 at 12:31 am
    Vernon Lun said

    Hi Connie, I think it’s wonderful that you saw that in your Dad.
    Vern

  11. September 24th, 2007 at 12:38 am
    pelf said

    My father left my Mum, my younger sister and I for another woman when I was 10 years old. I never had his signatures in all my education paper works, and indemnity forms and he never attended any of my Parent-Teacher meetings. He never knew how well I did in school, and he never showed up in any of my prize-giving ceremonies. And he had also never seen me perform on the stage.

    But I am glad all these happened to me. For it has taught me to be a better person. I understood the meaning of being responsible at a very young age. I never demanded for new shoes or new clothes because I knew Mum couldn’t afford them. I took great care of my sister because she was too young to know what was happening. I studied hard so that I could get into a university, and now that I’m here, I work hard so that I could get a good job so that I could afford to get Mum whatever she deprived herself of.

    There is never a “Daddy” in my heart. Only a father.

  12. September 24th, 2007 at 2:58 am
    Alina Popescu said

    Liz and Vern, thank you both :) I did indeed find a true hero and got the unconditional love that everyone needs :)

  13. September 24th, 2007 at 5:16 am
    ME Strauss said

    Oh Pelf,
    You’re right. You never had a Daddy. His life was a little too much about himself, wasn’t it? He lost the unconditional love of the children that he might have had.

    You certainly became a fine person. One doesn’t need a spectacular dad to do that. You’re proof in so many ways. I hope your story, your life, makes one dad think and realize that what he does changes a whole family’s history . . . and helps that one dad make a choice that shows love that goes more than one way.

  14. September 24th, 2007 at 5:17 am
    ME Strauss said

    Alina!
    I smile to think of your comment. :)

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