October 21, 2012
molly published this at 3:00 am
Earlier this month, I was asked to contribute to a year-long module focused on helping entrepreneurs develop their own paths. My specific installment concerned collaboration and how to identify strategic partners, part of which included an interview.
Collaboration is perilously close to becoming buzzworded to death, but it IS true that many hands make light work. A focused group of people with complementary talents and matching energies can focus their gifts on the attainment of a common goal. It’s a rush when it happens.
As I’ve moved into the solopreneur space, my inner voice has become more prominent (by either necessity or design), and as a result, I’ve become more in tune with honoring it. When you factor in the reality that time literally IS money for us, in order for us to be truly effective, we must be surgical in our “yes-es” and equally emphatic about our ‘no-s.”
As an entrepreneur, how can you gather these people to you? How can you attract likeminds who can help you achieve your goals?
The short answers?
• Be crystal clear about your strengths, abilities and energies
• Learn how to say “no” to tasks of which you may be capable, but will redirect you from your ultimate goal
• Learn to accept another’s “no” without taking it personally
• Know what you want and need
• Do your best to anticipate from the outset expectations and projected outcomes.
• Be willing to offer your gifts as they fit into the whole
One of my most formative experiences was attending Liz Strauss and Terry St. Marie’s SOBCon in 2009. It was there that I first heard of the concept of “building a barn” as it applied to a social media apparatus and community. Anything that has true, systemic and lasting value is a result of the creative inputs of disparate groups and voices. The success of WWDF is dependent upon trusting our community partners as they help us to identify and strategically invest in women who have made the choice to take ownership of their own lives.
If you wish to make something happen, you are going to hear ‘no’ a lot. Make peace with this.
Don’t take it personally. Take the lesson from the ‘no’ and move on to the next prospect/investor/partner.
Most people who are known as Decision Makers in their organizations operate from “The Known,” and the truly powerful are completely fine with the word “no.” No is an answer. People who spend an inordinate amount of time trying to bluff or to otherwise hide their imperfections ultimately cost investors time and energy, both of which are precious commodities.
When you hear a polite, but firm ‘no,’ you have a Known Entity. Hearing a wishy washy ‘yes’ that never materializes is like living in limbo. Your plans will remain on hold or in stasis because your resources are nebulous.
Learn to release the weak yes-es. It will make room in your life for the right collaborator.
How have you managed your ‘yes’ to ‘no’ ratio? Do you find that some “maybes” pan out? How do you manage your ‘pendings?’ What has worked for you when collaborating?
Molly Cantrell-Kraig is a woman with drive. Possessing an innate sense of purpose and a pragmatic, solution-based approach to empowering people, she fused these two traits in order to establish Women With Drive Foundation. Based upon its founder’s personal history, Women With Drive Foundation is a means through which Cantrell-Kraig may effect change on both a micro and macro level. By providing women with something as essential as personal transportation in order to transition them from poverty to prosperity, she, through Women With Drive Foundation, seeks to empower women to help them help themselves. Through this action, the individual applicant benefits, as does society as a whole. Follow Molly on twitter as @mckra1g or @WWDr1ve (Women With Drive Foundation) or “Like” them on facebook.