Why I love fear

Here there be monsters. Under the bed. In the closet. In the basement. Who else here knew how to jump from the doorway to the bed at night so that the monsters couldn’t grab your ankle and drag you under?

When you get older, we know that the only things under the bed are fossilized Skittles, the Renegade Sock That Escaped from the Dryer and dust bunnies.

  • The real fears live within the telephone we don’t want to use when calling sales leads or funders.
  • They live in our gut when we have to ask for help.
  • They live in the mirror when we fear forgetting who we are.

What got rid of the monsters when you were a kid? For me, it was M&Ms, a flashlight and a mother who told me that I could vanquish my demons.

As an adult?

Good friends, the enlightenment within and of course, M&Ms (if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it).

“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.” ~ Joseph Campbell

I love fear now. Fear is my friend. When fear is present, I know that I am close to a breakthrough in my evolutionary journey of becoming a fully functional Being.

The key to embracing fear is to understand what it represents. In order to do this, you’ll need friends, paper, pencil and chocolate.

First of all, learn to recognize your fear indicators.

  • Is it irritability?
  • Sweating?
  • Dizziness?
  • Sinking in the gut?
  • Procrastination?

Pay attention and when these twinges kick in, TRAIN YOURSELF TO ASK YOURSELF, “What am I afraid of?” Write it down or otherwise record it.

Get to a place where you can process your answers, and your next step is to ask yourself, “Why am I afraid of this?” This step may take some time. Bring enough chocolate. (By the way, the “why” is your flashlight).

Now “enter the cave.” When you prioritize and address your fears, they vanish like mirages in the desert. They vanish like mirages in the desert. Paradox is a hoot and a half.

To truly purge the power of your fear, have a good, long, healthy laugh at yourself for boxing at shadows. It is one of the most liberating feelings you’ll ever experience. I promise.

What fears have you overcome? How did you “embrace the beast”? What still remains for you to conquer? What has been your experience?


Molly Cantrell-Kraig is a woman with drive. Possessing an innate sense of purpose and a pragmatic, solution-based approach to empowering people, she fused these two traits in order to establish Women With Drive Foundation. Based upon its founder’s personal history, Women With Drive Foundation is a means through which Cantrell-Kraig may effect change on both a micro and macro level. By providing women with something as essential as personal transportation in order to transition them from poverty to prosperity, she, through Women With Drive Foundation, seeks to empower women to help them help themselves. Follow Molly on twitter as @mckra1g or @WWDr1ve (Women With Drive Foundation).


  1. Amadeuz07 says

    Fear is an emotion when a person perceives life or health, power, status, security, or in anything human beings held values. There is one famous saying about fear “If you fear in the future because what happened to your past, you’ll end up losing what you have in the present. So in conclusion, we can say fear is a choice.

  2. says

    I think I understand fear better these days. I’m still afraid, but in a way fear is a good thing in that it makes you take action to avoid what you are most afraid of.

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