So you are sick and tired of your life as it currently exists. You are ready for a change. There has to be “more than this.” But where and how to start? What happens or what needs to be present in order for transformation to occur? I’m glad that you asked. By simply asking, you have already taken the first step.
Because my brain tends to the rational and scientific when exploring answers, during my research, I came across this particular example that deals with cellular biology.
I’m not sure where science ends and psychology starts, but I think that they are intertwined and so have incorporated some of the information from the cellular biology answer in today’s post. As mentioned previously, awareness is the first step.
“The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.”Â ~ M. Scott Peck
For the benefit of those who haven’t read previous entries, journaling,Â meditation andÂ yoga are all efficient ways of helping cultivate awareness. By identifying and prioritizing the things you wish to change, you are already on your way to doing so. Using these three methods form the Triumvirate of Revelation and is a means to filter answers to the top layer of your consciousness. I promise that they work.
Be willing. By opening yourself up to the need for change and your willingness to begin, you set in motion the process for evolution. Although it sounds rather hoo-doo-voodoo, it’s true, nonetheless. By lowering the psychological drawbridge to your consciousness, you allow for the flow of ideas/concepts and behaviors to now be exchanged.
Incubate. This is the most frustrating time for me, because I can’t seeÂ anything happening during the incubation phase. This is the gestation or dormancyÂ part of the equation, but it is essential to success of any transformation subsequent to this stage. Think of the seed in the ground; the caterpillar in the chrysalis, the baby in the womb. You MUST allow the idea of transformation to percolate in your mind before you can proceed to the next step. During this time, if it helps you to feel better about waiting, this is a good time to imagine how your life will look “after” the transformation.Â
Â Why are you making this change?
Â How will you benefit?
Â What does your ideal situation resemble?
Shake things up. This is the point at which you pick an action item and begin. This, too, can be frustrating, because most people want wholesale change overnight. That dog will not hunt. It is not going to happen, short of a miracle. Let yourself off the hook and pick one action item and start. By attaining mastery on this first step, you will become more agile and proficient at subsequent steps. Crawl, walk, run.
When you are shaking things up,Â be prepared for some plates to drop. In anticipation of this possibility, let those around you know that you are starting something new. Friends will support you. Sometimes, the plates that you drop are meant to stay dropped. These “plates”Â may be friends, habits, jobs, partners… This is part of the filtering process as you move to your new form/version as you transform. Let them drop.
Grow. The growth stage is probably the most naturally fulfilling, because we finally feel confident that we made the right decision in changing. During this phase, we also refine our transformation and segue to mastery. Mastery is great, because that means we can teach someone else what we’ve learned. When you have achieved mastery, be on the lookout for people in the frustrated phase, because I can make another promise to you: if you think overcoming transformation is fun for yourself, wait until you can help someone else. It is a rush.
What do you want to be? What do you want to accomplish? How will you begin?
Molly Cantrell-Kraig is a woman with drive. Possessing an innate sense of purpose and a pragmatic, solution-based approach to empowering people, she fused these two traits in order to establish Women With Drive Foundation. Based upon its founder’s personal history, Women With Drive Foundation is a means through which Cantrell-Kraig may effect change on both a micro and macro level. By providing women with something as essential as personal transportation in order to transition them from poverty to prosperity, she, through Women With Drive Foundation, seeks to empower women to help them help themselves. Through this action, the individual applicant benefits, as does society as a whole. Follow Molly on twitter as @mckra1g or @WWDr1ve (Women With Drive)