The Past Is Gone
WE charge in . . .
We come into life screaming for air and, we fight to prove we belong here. Along the way, little and sometimes big hurts happen. Some were intentional. Some were accidental. Probably a number were entirely in our imagination. Yet, our need to stay meaningful almost leads us to find something meant to belittle where something else entirely might have been going on.
. . . armed with protection . . .
We go to the negative as a defense. A grandmother doesn’t to speak to a fully grown son. Her anger is about times before he was born. We lay the deeds of a villain who escaped at the door of a hero who stayed. The first wife lied. . . . The last boss was a fraud. . . . Deep inside we’re not just protecting, we’re waiting for the bad guys to return with the answer to Why?
. . . unconsciously waiting . . . deaf and unseeing.
And that unconscious waiting is a sort of self-harm.
What if we changed our ways? What if we changed how we see who we are?
from Find Forgiveness by Tommy Henriksen, Selected Songs For A New Beginning
. . .
Can you look into my eyes and tell me why?Find forgiveness. The past is gone today.
Are you willing to learn and change?
I see myself changing all my ways.Forgiveness
And the tears that fell are from you
Waters from my soulCan you look into your eyes and tell yourself why?
Find forgiveness. The past is gone today.
Are you willing to learn and change?
Can you see yourself changing all your ways?Forgiveness
I was wrong in your eyes.
You know God and I see.Can we give it one last chance . . . for all of us?
. . .
We can change the world — just like that.
–ME “Liz” Strauss
‘Morning’ Liz
Self-harm and giving away a kind of power to those we still feel a grudge for. ‘They’ occupy our minds, ‘they’ hold us in the past where we were hurt, miss-treated.
But ‘they’ have passed by, gone forward, forgot – or didn’t even realise – about their ‘deed’ against us.
We still live in that hurtful past, we’re stuck there until we ourselves go forward and forgive them and ourselves.
“If you keep looking back, you’re going to miss your whole life”
Then we can start living our own independent life.
Karin H. (Keep It Simple Sweetheart, specially in business)
Hi Karin,
We think the “giving” in forgiving is “giving up” or “giving away,” but it’s really “giving back to ourselves” most of all.
For giving us a new chance for a future. 🙂
Exactly!
New change for our own free future, focused on us – our own choices – and not anymore on ‘them’ and the past.
We had ‘given’ them our future by holding on to the ‘grudge’/hurt, now we free ourselves by giving back our life to our own deeds and responsibility of our life.
Karin H.
Heh-heh!
Yep, Karin!
The future is all possibilities, especially when we have our hearts, minds, and hands open to take ahold of what is offers. 🙂
From one of my favorite movies, Death on The Nile.. Peter Ustinov as Hercule Poirot to Mia Farrow… the scorned woman
“I know how you feel. We all feel like that at times. However, I must warn you, mademoiselle: Do not allow evil into your heart, it will make a home there.”
gp in montana
Oh Liz. What an appropriate post. A friend of mine went into the hospital this past week partly because she has not been able to get over the horrible pains inflicted upon her as a child. Her husband and kids who are wonderful people are now waiting patiently on the sidelines…
I have been so affected by this because it’s a reminder of how we often do not know what demons people fight inside which are brought on by hurts inflicted by another…so much more painful when it is from your family and when you are a child. We know what might have happened in someone’s life, but yet we don’t know what is inside another’s head.
The sins of the father (parents) are visited on the son (children)…when will it stop?
How hard it can be to forgive those who we thought would protect us.
Sorry to be a downer…if you have a moment I’d appreciate a “forgiving” thought sent the way of my friend and her family
Hi GP!
Great quote. Hercule was a wise character. He understood that folks have hearts.
Hi Aruni!
We’re not supposed to hurt each other, but we do. Worse, we hurt the ones we love. It’s despicable and it’s human, warts and all.
I wish your friend a way out of the darkness visible. I wish your friend a way to find her own true heart open and strong. I wish her family a light to shine on them to guide her home to them soon.
See it happening. Help her by wishing her home with me.
Forgive those who hurt. It only hurts more to hold to what they’ve done.
Thank you Liz.
You’re welcome, Aruni.
Love.