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Change the World: Knowing When Not to Listen

July 5, 2007 by Liz 22 Comments

Be the Teacher

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Listening. We all want to be heard. It’s often a gift to listen when someone needs to talk. But not always . . .

Sometimes we talk just to know that we’re here. Sometimes we rattle on without thinking about what we’re saying. Sometimes we talk to fill space or win favor. Sometimes we talk just to know we’re okay or to prove that we’re good enough.

I heard a parable about a teacher and a student. Sometimes I’m the teacher. Sometimes I’m not. It’s easy to be the student. I want to remember the story, so I pass it on.

On beautiful day centuries ago, a teacher was walking down a dirt road in the country, thinking teacherly thoughts.

A student, filled with excitement, ran up to the teacher saying, “Master, I have news you should know, important news, from the city.”

The teacher smiled at the student and slowed so the student could catch up and catch his breath. As they walked together, the teacher softly spoke.

“May I ask a few questions first?”

“Oh yes, of course, Teacher, yes,” the student gushed.

“This news you bring — does it tell a of a good deed?”

“Oh no, Teacher. Someone has done something wrong.”

“Do you know the person yourself?’

“No, Teacher. I don’t, but the person who told me does.”

“Do you know that the story is true?”

“My friend swears it is so.”

The teacher walked silently for a while so that the student might hear his own answers. When the teacher spoke again, it was almost a whisper.

“You wish to tell me bad news about someone you do not know about something you don’t know is true. This news is not important.”

The teacher asked three simple questions and knew whether to listen.

Those three questions make it easy to decide.

We can choose not to listen.

We can change the world — just like that.
–ME “Liz” Strauss

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Comments

  1. Robyn says

    July 5, 2007 at 8:02 AM

    Wow, a very powerful story, Liz. One that’ll stick in my memory bank. I’ve been learning to ask questions more than to merely “tell” as I converse with others. This example takes it to the height.

    Many days I’m in awe of the new thoughts you share with us.

    Thanks, I really appreciate your work.

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  2. ME Strauss says

    July 5, 2007 at 8:40 AM

    Hi Robyn,
    That was my response when I heard this story. It sure is a powerful one. I wish I remembered more often . . . like I said I tell it so that I remember it more. 🙂

    Thank you for your kind words about conversation.

    Asking questions is as important as knowing the answers . . . sometimes more important. 🙂

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  3. Mike says

    July 5, 2007 at 9:53 AM

    Liz,

    I love this story, but you realize that a great deal of what passes for “news” these days qualifies as NOT IMPORTANT by the master’s standard!

    And I agree wholeheartedly with the point of the story.

    Mike

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  4. ME Strauss says

    July 5, 2007 at 9:57 AM

    Hi Mike!
    Yeah, I know a whole lot of news is 2nd hand reported and not worth listening to, isn’t it. We could be so much better if we all became just a tiny bit more discriminating about what we pass on. 🙂

    I’m as guilty as the rest, especially when I’m not paying attention.

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  5. Mike says

    July 5, 2007 at 10:08 AM

    Ditto here on that “when I’M not paying attention”, but I’m trying to be more discriminating about where I put my attention.

    (I’m guessing this will be a continuing work in progress) 😉

    Mike

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  6. ME Strauss says

    July 5, 2007 at 10:12 AM

    Hi Mike!
    It seems that everything to do with quality requires us to pay attention or it declines. That’s a learning to keep an eye on. (purposefully redundant.)

    We don’t need to watch things that “have to be done or need to be paid.” Other folks do that for us. But our quality of life, of self, of what we offer in any way . . . product, service, interaction . . . is ours to watch. 🙂

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  7. Mike says

    July 5, 2007 at 10:19 AM

    Liz,

    I really appreciate that last comment. You are a keen observer and thinker!

    Mike

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  8. ME Strauss says

    July 5, 2007 at 10:21 AM

    Hey Mike,
    We all live that one. 🙂

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  9. Karin H. says

    July 5, 2007 at 10:39 AM

    Hi Liz

    I’m in two minds about this.
    I heard this story before, where – because of the questions asked – the teacher never found out about his wife’s unfaithfulness.
    Having to listen to every rumour that is past on as news, I agree, not good – but sometimes….?

    Karin H. (Keep It Simple Sweetheart, specially in business)

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  10. Mike says

    July 5, 2007 at 10:48 AM

    Karin,

    What if the ‘news’ was untrue? How much extra damage would be done?

    And if the teacher never found about his wife’s unfaithfulness, how much did he suffer?

    I like the questions because they cut down on hearsay, which is notoriously unreliable.

    Cheers,

    Mike

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  11. Karin H. says

    July 5, 2007 at 10:51 AM

    I know Mike, that’s why I’m in two minds about this.
    It’s those, “what if’s….” 😉

    Karin H.

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  12. Mike says

    July 5, 2007 at 11:07 AM

    Karin,

    I was listening to an audiobook on the way to work today and remember this quote (but not the originator): “Would you rather be happy or right?” I’m not certain how it relates to the story, but my heart says it is.

    Mike

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  13. ME Strauss says

    July 5, 2007 at 11:32 AM

    Hi Karin and Mike,
    I’m not sure that’s the way I would want to find out about my husband’s unfaithfulness. I would rather be in the dark longer. I asy that because the person telling did not know for sure if the story was true.

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  14. Mike says

    July 5, 2007 at 1:02 PM

    Liz,

    My point exactly.

    Mike

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  15. Rick Cockrum says

    July 5, 2007 at 2:54 PM

    As Robyn said, powerful story, Liz. A three question definition of gossip.

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  16. ME Strauss says

    July 5, 2007 at 6:07 PM

    Hi Rick,
    Yeah. It is powerful, isn’t it? I try to keep it close. I wish remembered it more often than I do. 🙂

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  17. Karin H. says

    July 6, 2007 at 2:41 AM

    Hi Mike (Liz)

    I don’t know abut this one. Happy – right, is there a choice sometimes? Of course there is, you can decide not to listen to gossip or half-truths. Ignoring most for you’re own piece of mind at that precise moment is a whole different issue.
    (And besides, I’m a curious person who wants to find/hear the truth on all occasions. So I never read those gossip magazines, but read ‘proper’ newspapers ;-))

    Karin H.

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  18. ME Strauss says

    July 6, 2007 at 5:45 AM

    Karin,
    I’m with you on the truth . . . that’s why I don’t read newwpapers either. 🙂

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  19. barry rutherford says

    July 7, 2007 at 8:57 AM

    If the person being listened to believes for even a small amount of time that you are tuned into exacrly how they are feeling at the time they are talkin, then yes u can change the worls & miracles can happen !

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  20. ME Strauss says

    July 7, 2007 at 10:17 AM

    HI Barry!
    Knowing when listen with your heart and head and knowing when not to listen are important skills, when we get them right we are so powerful. I agree with you through and through. When a person with great intentions knows he or she has been heard, you have handed that person a bit of the world, and miracles sure can happen. 🙂

    You’re not a stranger anymore.

    Reply

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