We Make Our Reality

It’s only sensible that we make our reality. What we perceive comes through the filter of what we have experienced before.

When I used go home to visit my family for holidays, every trip was a stress. I felt they didn’t see me.

Families have a way of bringing us back to our “role” in the group dynamic. I would return telling people how my siblings thought I was still 12 years old. I thought they were self-centered in doing this.

Couldn’t have been me? Could it?

Silly me. It sure was all my own doing. I thought they put me in a box, but I was finding that box and crawling right into all by myself. Sometimes the roles we play in a group dynamic are so comfortable, so much easier than being fully present. We gravitate to old roles without being aware that we’re choosing them, and then we decide that it’s something that other folks are deciding for us.

Head and heart, when all of our parts are connected together. That’s when we really have a soul. That’s when we know how to listen — to ourselves and others. Our cells resonate with the sound of life like drops in that pool.

We imagine other people in our own image and likeness. When we guess what they’re thinking we’re really imagining what we, ourselves, might think were we them.

So why not imagine them thinking we’re a fabulous success? It’s within our power to think our way out of that old box.

We can change the world — just like that.
–ME “Liz” Strauss