Enneagram Series by Mark McGuinness
The Enneagram is about movement and change, letting go of fixed identity and opening up to the possibility of transformation. G.I. Gurdjieff, the teacher who first brought knowledge of the Enneagram to the West, taught that we have two natures â€“ â€˜Personalityâ€™ which is essentially illusory, an image of ourselves that we learn from others; and â€˜Essenceâ€™, our true nature. The Enneagram type belongs to â€˜Personalityâ€™ in this specialized sense â€“ and is therefore false, something we are unnaturally attached to through conditioning. The aim of Gurdjieffâ€™s system was to help people let go of this false self-image so that their true Essence could emerge.
So the point of identifying your Enneagram type is not to put you in a box or stick a label on you – but to show you where the type (your self-image) helps you and where it is getting in your way. By deliberately working â€˜againstâ€™ your type, you can open up new perspectives and make changes in long-established habits.
To give a personal example â€“ by nature Iâ€™m quite a serious character (point One) who has always been keen to work hard and achieve things. In my early twenties I became very earnest about my personal and spiritual development â€“ training as a therapist, attending meditation retreats and studying the Enneagram(!). This was very different to some of my friends who spent a lot of time at point Seven and were more playful and spontaneous â€“ and usually ribbing me to get me to lighten up a bit.
Unfortunately, my friends were right. Much of my earnestness was the result of spending too much time at point One. Far from making me an â€˜evolvedâ€™ person, it merely confirmed that I was trapped in the limitations of my type. So the Enneagram showed me my â€˜blind spotâ€™ â€“ taking life too seriously. It showed me that for the sake of my personal development I had to have more fun and indulge in the vulgar pleasures of life!
So I made more time for fun, playfulness and hanging around with silly friends. Less time meditating, more time watching football and going to parties. I started to watch out for my tendency to criticise new ideas and to look for options instead of flaws. Gradually this led me to move away from exclusively focusing on the â€˜serious businessâ€™ of psychotherapy and towards my other passions â€“ writing poetry and coaching artists and other creative professionals.
This doesnâ€™t mean I completely changed my character – I can still work hard and strive for excellence in whatever I am doing. But it does mean I can let go of some of the seriousness of point One and experience more of the joy of life – â€˜all work and no playâ€™ is a very relevant saying for point One!
Observing your Enneagram type
Enneagram teachers typically recommend two ways of working on yourself with the Enneagram. The first is simply to observe your type – read the descriptions and notice when you find yourself compelled to act according to type. For example – if you are at point Two, notice when you feel compelled to help someone; if you are at point Seven, notice when you get bored and feel the need to lighten the mood; if you are point Five, notice when you feel the need to withdraw from the group and gather your thoughts.
Getting into the habit of â€˜just observingâ€™ yourself is a great way to learn about yourself, even if the observations can make uncomfortable viewing at times. One Enneagram teacher, Richard Rohr, says we havenâ€™t really â€˜gotâ€™ the Enneagram until we have been humiliated – meaning that it is a humbling experience to realise how much of our thoughts, feelings and behaviour are conditioned by our type. On the other hand, this can also help us to develop compassion for ourselves – and for others, when we notice that they are also trapped by their type.
If youâ€™re feeling really brave, you might want to show the description of your type to a trusted friend and ask them whether they think itâ€™s accurate – pick your friend wisely, and be prepared for a few home truths!
Working against your Enneagram type
Letâ€™s have another look at the Enneagram symbol:
Notice the arrows that have been drawn on the diagram – these indicate the â€˜path of least resistanceâ€™ in the face of the difficulties of life. So for me at point One, the path of least resistance leads to point Four – whenever I am overwhelmed by the difficulties of achieving my goals, I am tempted to retreat to Four and take on the less desirable qualities of that type, by getting depressed and lamenting the state of the world. If I move in the other direction however, against the direction of the arrows, then I arrive at point Seven, which is when I lighten up and start to embrace the positive side of life.
Challenges for each type
Each Enneagram type faces a similar challenge in moving â€˜against the arrowsâ€™ in order to overcome the limitations of their type:
- Point Two – can you move to point Four and focus on your own needs as well as othersâ€™?
- Point Three – can you move to point Six and spend time out of the limelight as a member of the group?
- Point Four – can you move to point One and adopt a more objective critical perspective on your own feelings and dreams?
- Point Five – can you move to point Eight and put yourself on the line by applying your knowledge in the world of action?
- Point Six – can you move to point Nine and set aside your suspicion by trusting others and celebrating difference?
- Point Seven – can you move to point Five and stop being a butterfly by focusing on one option and seeing it through to completion?
- Point Eight – can you move to point Two and set aside your own love of power by using your strength to serve others?
- Point Nine – can you move to point Three and allow the spotlight to rest on you as you perform at your best?
- Point One â€“ can you move to point Seven and let go of your drive to achievement long enough to enjoy the pleasures of the moment?
- Has there ever been a time when youâ€™ve caught yourself â€˜responding from typeâ€™ and been surprised at how easy it was to get carried away by automatic thoughts and actions?
- Has there ever been a time when youâ€™ve gone â€˜against your typeâ€™ â€“ either deliberately or because the situation demanded it â€“ and discovered how liberating it can be?
Part 6 in Enneagram — a Brief Introduction will appear Thursday, July 5, at about this same time.
Mark studied the Enneagram as part of his training as a psychotherapist. He has used it for his own personal development and in his work with individuals, families, and organizations. Mark McGuinness’ business Wishful Thinking, is a specialist coaching and training service for creative businesses such as design studios, ad agencies, film and TV production companies, computer games developers, architectâ€™s practices and fashion designers.
Thank you, Mark,
–ME “Liz” Strauss
See the complete series listing at Series: The Enneagram â€“ a Brief Introduction
Karin H. says
Thanks for this. I’ve been thinking about my ‘types’ this week and have done some deep pondering about it. Having a strong connection between 2 (7), 5 (6) and 8 (6) – number behind the types are the ‘results’ from the test’, so you can see the three are very close I know I can become very dominant, overbearing even.
And that’s not a good point to be sometimes (sometimes it is exactly good ;-)). So I now know the ‘why’ better and can ‘work’ on it (try to work on it it must be I think).
Karin H. (keep It Simple Sweetheart, specially in business)
Christine Kane says
I’ve never heard the shift from one number to the other as “the path of least resistance.” I always heard it described as “in the heart space” vs. “being in stress.” (i.e, as a 1, you would go to 7 in your heart space.) i like how you describe this.
anyway, what you write here is the reason i love the enneagram so much.
for me (4) it has taken some serious persistence and a lot of work to move through the patterns of envy and/or whineyness and/or heaviness – into the gifts of learning to “think about” life situations – not just feel them all!
the biggest shifts I’ve made in “going against type” (and moving to “1”) have been in becoming better in the BUSINESS side of being a songwriter. when i started my career, it was all about my feelings, my art (and my drama!). it’s gotten so much more rich and free now that i’ve learned HOW TO THINK about things, and not just fall into the pattern of FEELING them all. in fact, the business side of art has taught me every bit as much as the creative side of art. it’s a blessing to have grown so much.
great post! thanks!
Ariane Benefit, Neat & Simple Living says
Thanks for this article! I was curious what the enneagram was all about! Can’t wait to see future articles!
ME Strauss says
I had read enneagram material before. Never have I read anything as strong as what Mark has done. It’s great stuff. 🙂
Mark McGuinness says
Hi Karin, interesting to see you have high scores on three connected points. It may be that you spend most time at 8, withdrawing to 5 (to recharge in solitude) when the pressures of being in charge get too much, and moving to 2 when you’re reall ‘in the zone’ and are able to channel your leadership abilities into helping others.
Christine – thanks for a great description the difficulties (and rewards) of moving against the arrows. I’ve seen many artists face the same dilemma you have – do I stay at 4, locked in my own world of feeling, or do I do the really hard work of moving to 1, and working out how to get my artistic vision out there in the world? I can certainly relate to the ‘serious persistence’ required to move against the arrows – you have no idea how much hard work it can be for a 1 to relax and have fun! 🙂
Ariane – glad you liked the post. You can download the whole series as a free e-book – link on the final post.
Mark McGuinness says
PS Karin – that’s funny, I’ve not heard the expression “in the heart space” used like that! But I like it, it makes complete sense. I went on an Enneagram retreat once where one of the participants described our usual points as being “in exile” from our true nature – i.e. 1 is “in exile” from 7, 4 from 1 etc.
Karin H. says
Mark, that’s worth pondering about. Thank you for the whole series, mighty interesting.
That should be PS Christine 😉
Mark McGuinness says
D’oh! What was I saying about Ones making great proofreaders…?
Andy Wray says
Hi Mark, having being introduced to the enneagram a number of years, my type is a 5 with a wing in 4, how would I work on my weaknesses?
My type is a 4, how would I work well with my female boss, who is a 3?