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The Chameleon Effect: Can Others’ Perceptions Hurt Your Success?

September 8, 2008 by Liz

It Sure Seems So!

Will an Army officer’s arbitrary opinion determine a soldier’s performance ?
Will the next U.S. President’s productivity be affected by what his cabinet believes about him? ?
Can a stereotype cause you to lose your hearing?

Click the links. According to the studies, the answer is unequivocably yes.

What we believe not only changes our behavior, but it can change the behavior of those we believe it about. It’s called the chameleon affect.

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The Chameleon Effect

I’ve been reading about the ways people assign values to situations they encounter. The study, “Social Perception and Interpersonal Behavior: On the Self-Fulfilling Nature of Social Stereotypes,” is a great example of the Chameleon Effect.

Fifty male and fifty female students were recruited for a communication study. The women were simply told that they would be having a short telephone conversation with a randomly selected man.

The 50 male students were given biographical information and photo for the woman they would call. What the men didn’t know was that the photos were fake — half were of a beautiful woman, the other half were of a less attractive woman.

The men had time to review the photos and bios. Then they were asked to fill out an “Impression Formation Questionaire,” which had them rate their first impression about the person they were going to be calling. Regardless of the bio information, the beautiful women were expected to be “sociable, poised, humorous, and socially adept.” The less attractive women were perceived to be “unsociable, awkward, serious, and socially inept.”

The women knew nothing of this questionaire.

The researchers recorded the phone calls. Then they edited out the voices of the men. The edited versions were then played back for a third group of twelve ordinary people, who knew nothing about the study or the people who took part.

After listening to their voices, the jury was asked to rate the women using the same “Impression Formation Questionaire.” Based on the women’s voices alone, the jury attributed the same traits to the same groups of women — they matched the traits attributed to the fake photos by the men in the study.

The explanation? Once the men formed their opinion, every aspect of their conversation reflected their perception of the woman as they had the conversation on the telephone. The women gave the corresponding response to the “cues” the men were sending. [Sway, The Irresistible Pull of Irrational Behavior, Braffman and Braffman]

I underscore that the women knew nothing of the photos, or the questionaire, or the impressions the men had formed of them, but the women still changed in response to the ideas the men had about them.

What Can We Do about the Chameleon Effect?

If we unconsciously live up to what other people telegraph, managing expectations takes on a more serious role in managing a career, a business, or a brand. What is a brand if not perceptions and expectations?

If expectations have the potential to change how we behave, how can we keep aware and unhurt by this effect?

–ME “Liz” Strauss
Images: sxc.hu
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Filed Under: Marketing /Sales / Social Media, Successful Blog Tagged With: bc, chameleon effect, personal-identity

What Turns Standing Out into Outstanding?

September 7, 2008 by Liz

Blending In and Standing Out

It’s a fact of gardening and nature. No matter how we plant and tend the seeds, we’ll never be sure that the flowers that bloom will be as expected. Too many things genetic and environmental can happen.

If you’ve found buttercups growing in the weeds, you’ve seen such things. The natural world is filled with juxtapositions. Things in new places stand out.

The butterfly fits with grace, blending into its natural habitat.

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We value a butterfly differently when it stands out.

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The least expected often gets the most attention.
Differences interrupt static patterns.

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Nature finds it’s own path.
We look for differences.

What turns standing out into outstanding?

–ME “Liz” Strauss
images: sxc.hu

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Filed Under: Inside-Out Thinking, Successful Blog Tagged With: bc, Ive-been-thinking, personal-identity

What Do You Do When the World Makes You Feel Small?

September 3, 2008 by Liz

Looking Up

I grew up with two brothers – one who is 8 years older than me and one who is 15 months older than he is. Winning at anything was a losing proposition unless they were placating me. One brother says he decided that I was his personal pet. The other brother said most days somewhat of a pest.

That’s not to say we don’t love each other to death . . . But relationships and little kids can wear on big brothers’ smiles, and I was a little kid who was particularly good wearing things out. It was a lonely “talent” and it often caused responses that made me feel smaller than the little kid I already was.

Yet as I look back, I realize that I learned a lot from my brothers who choose not to entertain the pesty, persistent interrupter that I was.

I learned to find my own measure of how big I am.

With enough practice walking off with my chin on my chest, I figured out that it’s hard to smile when I’m looking down. I also noticed that sidewalks and feet present limited possibilities to think about. We’ll not even talk about how boring I find mulling over the idea of the world is against me again.

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Looking up has much more to offer than looking down.

Just raising chin makes me feel taller and like I belong. Looking up offers new perspectives and possibilities. Even if I imagine myself tiny enough to stand under a flower I feel important enough to accomplish what I came here for.

Looking up is where the light is, where the clouds can take any form.

When things get big and I’m overwhelmed by it all, I look up. I feel power.

It’s hard to feel less than anyone else under the sky that’s bigger than everyone.

What do you do when the world makes you feel small?

–ME “Liz” Strauss
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Filed Under: Motivation, Successful Blog Tagged With: bc, Ive-been-thinking, personal-identity

Incredibly Human

August 27, 2008 by Liz

I've been thinking . . .

about our personal humanity.

Every day I get up and turn on the coffee. Turn I on the computer. Shortly thereafter, an IM pops up with someone who wants to turn on a conversation. Some days have begun before I have a chance to sit back and find out who it was is that left my bedroom.

Yesterday, Terry wrote his thoughts about how we interact with our digital world. He asked that we

Do a little math in [our] head every now and then. Do it all for the sake of humanity.

I was writing my comment on Terry’s post when a call interrupted my thoughts. Ironically it was Terry on the phone. He only had a few minutes so our talk wasn’t long. I didn’t tell him that I’d read what he wrote. After that my day overcame any thinking I might have spent on what he said.

This morning Jon made a beautiful observation about how

everything but the kitchen sink is running through [our heads.]

He explained that being overwhelmed might be something we can all find our way through because . . .

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we’re human.

In a world of time and space and technology, hold tight to your humanity. It may feel fragile and weak, but it’s there where we refuel. It’s there where we get our strength.

Technology and illusions may lead us to images of super human accomplishments, but every human can only do what is humanly possible.

Stand in a huge quiet space that no humans have touched and think about that again. Say it aloud.

Every human can only do what is humanly possible.

What’s humanly possible is already incredible.

Go be incredible. Incredibly human is enough.

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Filed Under: Motivation, Successful Blog Tagged With: bc, incredible, Ive-been-thinking, personal-identity

Social Networking: How to Keep True Direction Down Trails of Connections

June 30, 2008 by Liz

Passion, Connections, and Directions

The Living Web

When I was a kid, I wasn’t looking for my direction. No one said to follow my passion. I was a kid. I was on a quest to do extraordinary stuff.

When I was a kid, I wasn’t bombarded with information from every dimension. My social circle was small. The proportions between my size and that circle have changed since then. My life is replete with relationships and complex connections. Now I have more social network passwords than the number of friends I had when I was kid.

Conversations bifurcate, trifurcate, and splinter off in bit and pieces. They move like a soccer ball on this field where I hang out. I’m following echoes down weblike trails of plurkshops and twebinars to hear what my friends are saying now.

Underneath all that, the kid I was still has dreams, still wants to do extraordinary stuff. Here’s my recipe for getting back to what I’m about.

  • I turn it off.

In a minute or so, I remember my quest.

Passion needs direction, or it gets lost.

How do you hold onto your true direction?

–ME “Liz” Strauss
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Filed Under: Motivation, Successful Blog Tagged With: bc, networking, personal direction, personal-identity, social-networking

Social Networking: It's Not Who You Know — It's Whether You Know Yourself

June 18, 2008 by Liz

The Living Web

Networking, social networking, friending, and making connections, the time it takes to keep up with such things can be tremendous and exhausting. It’s hard to reply to every bit of conversation and get some work done. I’m also left wondering about Stever Robbins’ question “Social media confuses relationships and databases.” He draws a possible life scenario based on just such connections.

“I have over 1,000 Facebook friends!” one Twitterer proudly exclaimed.

Why is that a good thing? Well, when your car breaks down, you can call 1,000 people who you know nothing about and cry “Help! I’m stranded by the side of the road all alone.”

One of those 1,000 people is George. George “friended” you because you remind him so much of his first romance. The romance ended badly, but George is determined to recapture the love of his life. “I’ll be glad to pick you up,” e-mails George. “What kind of flowers are your favorite?”

1000 friends who don’t really know me, but I can say that I know them.

Is that worth something? Not usually.

We have to know each other for the “friend” part to work or network like it’s supposed to.

It’s not who knows our names or the bits we write in our profile. That’s not enough for someone to know what we need or how to refer us. It’s who knows us, who knows what unique and valuable things each one of us offers that no other one of us does. It’s who knows how something, everything, will be different — better — because we were a part of it.

For someone to know our unique value, we have to know that ourselves.

So you see, it’s not who know, but whether you know yourself.

What different and unique things do you bring to the table?

–ME “Liz” Strauss
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Filed Under: Motivation, Successful Blog Tagged With: bc, networking, personal-identity, social-networking

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