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How Do You Stay Connected to Yourself?

November 26, 2010 by Liz

When Your Head Says Yes, But Your Heart Says No

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When we’re born, our hearts are fully wired to our brains. I’m sure of that. We cry when we’re hungry. We cry when we’re mad. Then we learn about things like “good behavior,” and “inside voices.” Then our brains start thinking about where, when, and how to follow our feelings and when, where, and how to over-rule them.

Figuring out the which is what and where is a complicated burden, so for many of us it becomes easier to choose one — usually the brain — as the default. How many times have you heard someone say, “Use your head. What were you thinking?” Or we might choose a brain default for business and a heart default for social situations.

Seriously, that’s a dis-connection. It’s as if we turn off part of our input and output systems most of the time we’re living.

Inner conflict like that can leave us with no certain direction and huge pent up emotion.
It’s hard to take action when you don’t where you’re going.

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What if we re-connected ourselves to rewire our brains to our hearts — our thoughts to our feelings? It’s not such an outrageous idea. Getting out of our heads to consider situations often gives us perspective into the other people we’re seeing, how they might be feeling, even when to listen.

Being too much in our heads puts our focus on the work not the people doing it, on the product or service not the people who will use it. Being too much in our hearts gets us lost in a labyrinth of feelings without the ability to see clarity of logical reasoning.

But together head and heart can fill out the picture with meaning.

When you’re overthinking, ask yourself what makes me feel this is so important?
When you’re filled with huge feelings, ask yourself why you’re so emotionally invested?
Then check in with your hands and your feet to see which direction they seem to be recommending.

Don’t respond or react until you’ve rewired, reconnected, and rebalanced your view of the situation.

How do you stay connected to yourself?

–ME “Liz” Strauss
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Filed Under: Motivation, Successful Blog Tagged With: bc, connection, direction, head, heart, integration, LinkedIn

Steve’s Shorts: SEO, CRO, Social Media, Horses and Water

November 26, 2010 by Liz

We Interrupt Regular Blogging for Steve’s Shorts

Take a simple few minutes where a guy who is brilliant makes an observation about the social web that you might have already be thinking. This interruption brought to you by the evil conspiracy that is Steve Plunkett and Liz Strauss.

SEO, CRO, Social Media, Horses and Water
by Steve Plunkett.

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SEO is leading the horse to water

CRO is making the horse drink

Social Media is that horse broadcasting the location of the water hole and a personal judgment on water quality.

Hope you enjoyed this short moment with Steve.

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STEVE PLUNKETT, SR. MANAGER, CONTENT STRATEGY, SEARCH AND SOCIAL – @Rockfish Steve is an accomplished SEO Scientist responsible for diagnosing trends in all aspects of search engine optimization and Internet-user behavior. His areas of expertise include keyword research for psychological relevance, online reputation management, Internet conversion strategy, and digital and analog asset search optimization. He also specializes in organic SEO and user behavior in social networks. Steve has been ranked by PeerIndex in the top 1% for social media, Google and overall authority.

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Filed Under: SEO, Successful Blog Tagged With: bc, CRO, LinkedIn, SEO, social-media, Steve's Shorts

How to Be Ever Grateful for What You Have

November 25, 2010 by Liz

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Thanksgiving. Families. Rooms filled with people. Old torn relationships and new relatives. Or worse. A diner and a meal alone with faded memories.

We can’t bring back or remake today into what once was.
We can’t get the folks we love to behave exactly as we might want.
We can’t orchestrate the world to turn slowly to our best thoughts.

But we can be grateful for what we’ve got.
Every day. No matter what. We can recognize and celebrate what we value most of all.

How to Be Ever Grateful for What You Have

When that clerk in the grocery shop snaps and cracks and can’t even look up to see the person that you are, think about the generous person might have seen. Smile anyway and say “Thank you.”

When that person at work treats you like an inconsequential robot, think about the value you add every day. Smile anyway and say “Thank you.”

When that family member takes over the center of the universe, think about how much nicer you can be when you’re able to see the view from the perimeter. Smile anyway and say “Thank you.”

When that person you misinterprets your good deeds, think about good feelings that came with the doing. Smile anyway and say “Thank you.”

When that gossip says things about you that aren’t true, talk to your friends who would never believe such things about you. Then smile anyway and say “Thank you.”

Thank you
for showing me I don’t get thrown by little things.
for helping me see who I am is not what you say about me.
for the opportunity to try a positive response to your negativity.

Thank you can be an invitation to set the table differently.

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But most importantly,
When the people who help you thrive show up,
smile every time and say thank you.
You’ll know them by the way
they consistently say and show they have faith in you,
by the hope and time they invest your dreams,
and by the endless love they provide to see you through.

Make every breath a smile and a thank you.
Say it out loud and show to proudly in every way you know how.

It’s a forever gratitude … a generosity that goes both ways.
Smile and say “thank you” out loud to recognize how rich your life is.
Every day.
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Thank you to everyone who has changed my life.
My gratitude is huge and will always come back to you.

–ME “Liz” Strauss
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Filed Under: Blog Comments, Marketing /Sales / Social Media, Motivation, Successful Blog Tagged With: bc, gratitude, LinkedIn, relationships, thank-you

How to Bring a 2nd Generation of Evangelists into Building a Brand Values Baseline

November 23, 2010 by Liz

(Updated in 2020)

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10-Point Plan: Build a Brand Values Baseline — PART 2

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Master teachers and trainers will tell you that the most lasting understanding is that which builds on what we know and takes form from our experience of what we are learning. The most powerful method for moving a person, a team, or a group of volunteers to share the vision and values of a project or a brand in a deep thoughtful and feeling way is to let them follow the path to their learning as much as possible.

Anyone who’s sat watching someone who moves a mouse around a keyboard showing us how to use a web tool knows that method is not nearly as effective as when someone hands us the mouse and asks us to do the same motions to see the results.

If we want our new volunteer, new employee, new team or group to take on, understand and internalize the values that ARE our brands letting them own their own learning is by far the best way to go.

Two weeks ago, we collected the values words behind the higher purpose that brings our teams to the quest — what we’re building together that we can’t build alone. We talked about the idea of sending them them off with a challenge to condense that list of words into 5 words that might stand up and stand alone as a foundation for what we do. I offered some about the huge list of value words.

How might we take this list back to entire company to distill it down to no more than five words — a values baseline — that describes the values that drive what we do?

Last week, we talked about how to find the leaders in the pack of people around us.

Send out the first generation of evangelists to interact with stakeholder leaders. But make sure that the message you send doesn’t get smaller and smaller — like a ripple in the water. Instead imagine that the first ripple — the core team of 8-12 people — are attached to the quest a fine thin bungee cord. Have them go out, learn and come back again.

How to Bring a Second Generation of Evangelists into Building a Brand Values Baseline

The goal or objective of sharing at this moment is to invite and include the people who help our business thrive at the earliest point in the process.

  • Work with the core group to help them identify leaders who want to build something that they can’t build alone.
  • Determine a strategy of selecting 2-4 per core team member that will move outward from the core group to include core people in adjacent groups with similar needs. For example, marketing might reach to sales, pr, communications.
  • Invite those individuals to listen into a report of what the core group has been doing and ask their help in reviewing the core values baseline words when the team has reached 5 or fewer. (keep this informal and conversational.)

As the new stakeholder leaders are invited to be part of the review process give them room to ask questions and offer to participate. Let them know you’re preparing a formal method to move the process out to a second generation. Meanwhile ask them to …

  • be an active part of what the group doing
  • be the eyes on the outside of the conversation checking that we’re not missing or skipping important ideas
  • offer insights, questions, mutations, and new visions,
  • add energy and experience missing from the group.

How do we do that?
To build trust and a solid brand values baseline, strategy needs to underpin how this goes. Each core team of champions and heroes from the first meeting needs to champion a group or team that will become their shareholders network — the second-generation ripple. Inside that second ripple, the core team can identify 4-8 people that seem most interested and qualified to enlist in participating in ‘building something we can’t build alone.” The core teams can hold 1-2 small meetings of 3-4 people and place the task of distilling the words down to a short together with them.

In two to four weeks, the core teams can meet again with a single short list and a depth of comments from the individuals with whom they’ve met and discussed the values underpinning the brand values baseline.

When the core teams meet together, the discussion then revolves around how to serve the thoughtful, heartfelt needs of the higher cause of both the first and second generation as we clarify and condense the values baseline to fewer than 5 words.

Can you name the values that drive your business? Are you sure that everyone who helps your business thrive would agree on those five words

READ the Whole 10-Point Plan Series: On the Successful Series Page.

Be Irresistible.

–ME “Liz” Strauss

Filed Under: Successful Blog Tagged With: brand values, Brand values baseline

How to Be the Most Magnetically Attractive Person in the Room

November 22, 2010 by Liz

What Draws People to You?

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I have a friend who lights up every room that she enters. People are drawn to her. They gather around her. She’s a delight and so everyone wants to spend time with her. You might be surprised to know that she’s an introvert and doesn’t much like being in big groups.

Like me, this shy friend did her time standing against the wall watching from the outside while the great conversations happened just a few feet away from her. Then she cracked the secret of how to be in the conversation and help others belong in the conversation too.

How to Be the Most Magnetically Attractive Person in the Room

Much of what I know about feeling good in a big room comes from the time I spent watching my shining friend meet and greet people she doesn’t know and get them to talk with her. That introvert consistently becomes the most magnetically attractive person in the room. Introvert or not, here’s how you can do it.

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  • Smile. If it feels like everyone is looking at you, look at them. Look people in the eye and smile. Look like you’re someone easy to be with, friendly and approachable. Read on to get an idea on how to do that.
  • Assume kinship. Decide that you have something in common with everyone. Make it your goal to find out what it is. Something brought you both into the same room.
  • Take the “self” out of self-confidence. Be confident that every person will teach you something you didn’t know before. It could be a new idea, a new story or a practice at listening.
  • Start a conversation. Have a favorite easy, open question that solicits a creative answer or opinion. Mine is What do you do when you’re not this? Others are: If you could be anywhere right now, what would be doing? How does this event compare to the last event you attended? Mind if I ask your advice about how to meet some of the people in this room?
  • Wear something that gets folks commenting. Every notice how easy it is to talk to the man with the huge watch or the woman with colorful scarf. An interesting accessory invites conversation. Choose something that makes it easy to say “hello.”
  • Be approachable. As you’re talking to someone and you see someone approaching reach out an arm to invite that person into the conversation. You might pause to say, “Come on in.” Find out the person’s name. Introduce him or her into the conversation. Then continue on.

I’ve seen the magic that my friend spins whenever she steps outside herself to focus on every other person in the room. I’ve found it’s not just her talent. It’s a strategy that also works for me. And it can work for you.

To be the most magnetically attractive networker in the room, the key is to make it easy, smart, fun, and meaningful to talk to you. The same approach works online too.

What tricks have you found to be more approachable in a networking room?

–ME “Liz” Strauss
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Filed Under: Marketing /Sales / Social Media, Successful Blog Tagged With: bc, first impressions, LinkedIn, networking, relationships, small business

Thanks to Week 265 SOBs

November 20, 2010 by Liz

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Successful and Outstanding Bloggers

Let me introduce the bloggers
who have earned this official badge of achievement,

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and the right to call themselves
Successful Blog SOBs.

I invite them to take a badge home to display on their blogs.

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They take the conversation to their readers,
contribute great ideas, challenge us, make us better, and make our businesses stronger.

I thank all of our SOBs for thinking what we say is worth passing on.
Good conversation shared can only improve the blogging community.

Should anyone question this SOB button’s validity, send him or her to me. Thie award carries a “Liz said so” guarantee, is endorsed by Kings of the Hemispheres, Martin and Michael, and is backed by my brothers, Angelo and Pasquale.

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Want to become an SOB?

If you’re an SO-Wanna-B, you can see the whole list of SOBs and learn how to be one by visiting the SOB Hall of Fame– A-Z Directory . Click the link or visit the What IS an SOB?! page in the sidebar.

–ME “Liz” Strauss

Filed Under: SOB Business, Successful Blog Tagged With: bc, blog-promotion, SOB-Directory, SOB-Hall-of-Fame, Successful and Outstanding Blogs

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