Boy, Was that a Bad Idea!
Lately some folks have felt defeated, wondering whether their readers have left them. Dawud tackled that question in his post, What To Do When People Aren’t Paying Attention To Your Blog? Did you see it? His advice was right on the money.
When Dawud finished his counsel, he tossed the ball back here with this question.
What have you thought would work on your blog that bombed with your readers? And what did you learn from it?
Oh my! Many things have bombed, and I just let them go. But those don’t make for interesting stories. For me, only one stands out as the Bomb of the Century.
How a Colossal Mistake Taught Me 3 Keys of Blogging and SEO
It’s been long enough now that no aftershocks will come from speaking of it. At the time it was noisy and I owned no small part of it. It happened just a few short weeks after I started at Successful Blog and just a few short months after I wrote my very first blog post.
I tried to do a series on SEO when I couldn’t even spell it yet.
It wasn’t pretty, but in the end, it was beautiful.
The story goes something like this:
It was the wild, early days of the blogosphere, not even the trains had arrived yet. I think there were 15 million blogs about then. Picture me in Mankato, Minnesota, straight out of “Little House on the Prairie.”
I had done a popular series on Blog Promotion and maybe I was a tiny bit pleased with myself. I decided the next week would be on SEO. I had no clue what I was doing. I asked a friend to help — a young man from the UK, a programmer, not an SEO guy. He was as new to blogging as I was. Neither of us understood what we were taking on.
I announced the series. It got some attention.
One post in the series delivered information on metatags that was totally, entirely, and unabashedly out-of-date. The musicians, the sales folks, and the kindly tech guys began gently correcting the errors via their comments. They were both gracious and gentle with their replies.
Despite their grace, it was not fun nor particularly pretty.
I apologized.
Then, I caught up with my friend, Yaro Starak, and borrowed some of his knowledge to correct the misinformation we had supplied. He was most generous.
Unfortunately, that wasn’t the end.
A prominent SEO guy used us as the reason bloggers shouldn’t talk about SEO, leaving out the part where he had been invited to help.
A couple of posts went up from bloggers I still know and respect, who said, “Yep, she was wrong, but you didn’t need to shout her down like that.”
They just stood up like that.
It was about honor and community.
The prominent SEO guy and I talked offline and made peace with each other. He bought me a copy of Aaron Wall’s famous book so that I’d never find myself there again. What a beautiful resolution to the conflict!
The rest of the story is myth and legend of the wild, early blogosphere.
Sure I wish I would have been smarter, more circumspect, but I’m at the same time I’m grateful for the event. I learned these things from that colossal mistake.
- No one will ever know enough about SEO to go it alone.
- Conflicts are best handled without an audience.
- If you build relationships, folks are there when you need them.
I guess, you might call the learning part a success.
Which leads me to the very next question.
What do you do when a commenter seems to misinterpret what you’re saying no matter how hard you try to explain what you mean?
If you’re reading this, I’m not just asking Dawud the question, I’d love to hear your answer too, in the comment box below.
–ME “Liz” Strauss
Work with Liz!!
One2One is a cross-blog conversation. Find the answer at dawud miracle on Monday. You can see the entire One-2-One Conversation series on the Successful Series page.
In Case You Missed It: Writing 06-13-07
When I’ve taken two clearly explicit tries at explaining my meaning, and the commenter keeps coming at me, saying that’s no what I’m saying – they’re flamers.
An example happened the other day to a friend of mine.
She has a real estate blog, and was having fun with her upcoming birthday, by ‘hinting’ to her husband what kind of insanely costly Mercedes she’d like.
Everyone was having fun with her, when one commenter said the post seemed to indicate the whole 6% price structure of the industry was, by virtue of this post, exorbitant. Obviously, there was no ‘misinterpretation’ going on here.
The only other explanation to someone who insists on misinterpreting your explanations is a double digit IQ. And we can’t do anything about that one.
They’re flamers, pure and simple.
Hi Jeff,
So I guess you just ignore them? I often quietly invite folks who are disruptive to leave my blog. 🙂
Ignore them? Sometimes.
Usually, I call them out and they slink away.
If they become aggressive, I know a blog sniper. 🙂 Very quietly they’re are removed, and redirected – never to be heard from again.
Hi Jeff!
You are a powerful blogger. I like that. No commenter should be rude. The rule is “be nice!” 🙂
checkin inn… where i will not hint… today is my birthday. 🙂
but i digress.. i think the written word is so subject to (mis)intepretation, but methinks jeff is on it… at some point you can “tell” when someone’s being off purpose on purpose
gp in montana
Hi GP!
Happy Birthday!!
I’m with you and Jeff. Sometimes saying “good-bye” is the best word to pass along!
I learned that from watching my dad. 🙂
Hey Liz – I remeber that seo episode, was it that long ago! 🙂
I’ve been around long enough to know when a commenter is just trying to “push my buttons” even after explaining myself over and over.
They usually get bored and troll off somehwere else, but if not…
subtly ignore them, never ban them … and if they continue I just use some wit but never in a mean way (always be nice even when you’re verbally slip slapping them 🙂
and if all that fails …
I just say “lets agree to disagree … next!”
Hi Martin!
Have some nachos!
I wondered whether you’d remember that great drama! It was a “fun” one! I think I told the story with some poetry . . .
On the other subject, people don’t usually stay too long when I get confused by their behavior around here. My experience is that they go back to their own blog and start saying what it is they think I think, which isn’t what I think at all.
Only you would take on SEO as a newbie blogger – oh the audacity… 🙂
Lets put our thinking caps on: Only you know what you’re thinking when you think it, so when someone tells you what you’re really thinking I think that’s really funny. 🙂
Now my brain hurts, Goodnight.
Oh Martin!
I was too clueless to be audacious! I had no idea what it was I was taking on or I would have been scared out of my wits.
Who says that I know what I’m thinking when I’m think what I’m think?
Sweet dreams . . . it’s not night there!
I think this story sums up why snarky might get attention but giving, helping and building relationships is the best way.
When you have burned all the bridges you find yourself all alone on your own self-righteous island. You might be “right” but who cares?
When you build bridges you might not be “right” but you have plenty of places to go, people to talk to and all the help you will ever need.
I would much rather be “wrong” amongst friends than “right” in isolation 😉
Hi Chris!
We sure do need those bridges to get off an island, don’t we? Bridges keep the island connected and might even shore it up so that it doesn’t start sinking. 🙂
I have this thing about “righteousness” I’ve figured out . . . whenever I feel that way — I’m wrong.
Thanks for bridges you build.