The lone wolf mentality that enables them to strike out into the unknown can also be one of their greatest impediments to growth. There is a certain egomania and self-assurance at work in their make-up that helps the entrepreneur weather emotional, financial and other figurative storms in their lives as they press on toward a goal that sometimes only they can see.
They are resilient, resourceful and sometimes stubborn. They have to be, in order to protect their vision and dream.
But the best and most successful entrepreneurs have figured out how to balance their “independence trait” with the ability to accept help when it is needed. They have learned how to be “strategically weak” so that they can become even stronger and more capable in the long run.
There’s a saying that pride goeth before a fall, and in the case of those who haven’t learned how to ask for help, this saying especially applies.
Pride restricts. Pride reduces options. Pride weakens.
“Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less.” ~ C. S. Lewis
This is an important distinction when understanding esteem, worthiness and what you bring to the table during any ask for help. Sometimes the ask is framed as a “value proposition,” which is just a shiny term for energy exchange. Whether approaching a vendor, investor or potential client, you must balance what you get for what you give/offer.
The law of reciprocity is social physics.
However, this law also applies when asking for help. Understand that at every point at which you ask for help from someone, you yourself have something of value to offer. With this in mind, here are some suggestions when you wish to ask for help:
- Have a solid understanding of your strengths and capacity
- Be willing to offer those as “collateral” to the person/entity from whom you are asking help
- Don’t apologize for needing help
- Learn from the person/entity who offers help
- Pay it forward
The paradox is that we are at once at our weakest and our strongest when both accepting and offering help. It is a privilege to be both giver and receiver. Once you understand the physics of exchange, you will see that each participant in the equation benefits and expands.
“The dynamism / of like meeting like expands / both bodies in turn.” ~ MCK, Haiku
Letting people help you gives you a chance to strengthen yourself; allows a “stronger” person to give back into the karmaic exchange of energy and all benefit from the repercussions of the transaction. Have you ever helped someone else? Has anyone helped you? What was the result? How did you benefit?
Molly Cantrell-Kraig is a woman with drive. Possessing an innate sense of purpose and a pragmatic, solution-based approach to empowering people, she fused these two traits in order to establish Women With Drive Foundation. Based upon its founder’s personal history, Women With Drive Foundation is a means through which Cantrell-Kraig may effect change on both a micro and macro level. By providing women with something as essential as personal transportation in order to transition them from poverty to prosperity, she, through Women With Drive Foundation, seeks to empower women to help them help themselves. Through this action, the individual applicant benefits, as does society as a whole. Follow Molly on twitter as @mckra1g or @WWDr1ve (Women With Drive Foundation) or “Like” them on facebook.