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What Is Trust?

October 20, 2009 by Liz

That Was the Question

Some of you will click away before you read this — for whatever reason — we can’t invest in every message offered us or every person who brings it. For those who stay, thank you.

About a week ago, I spent time with someone I’ve known since I was 7. By the time one day had turned well into the next, we had caught up our lives and were well into our thoughts. Our friendship has lasted a life-time and we share in both silence and conversation. Picture two introverts not concerned with sharing thoughts aloud … a no-filter conversation.

In that amazing context, she looked me in the eyes to ask, “What is trust?”

That question is still with me.

Trust Is the Conversation

About a week before I sat with my life-long friend, I watched world leaders discuss how to get the world turning properly after we’ve undone so many things. Each speaker brought a message and each listener could choose whether to trust what he or she said. Trust, candor, and truth were common themes.

Trust has become the conversation. We talk about it with family, friends, business partners, clients, and journalists … online and offline. Seems reasonable that world leaders might talk about it too.

We’re defining it, outlining it, and promoting it to each other, but the how to seems less than firmly drawn. As I watch and listen I become more aware of what moves me to trust and what undermines that.

What Trust Is Not

I’ve never been one to trust or distrust power — the power of print, the power of a microphone, the power of office, the power of your signature on my paycheck. I am surprised and sometimes frightened by those who are.

Trust is a relationship not an office. It’s not situational.
Power and position get an opportunity, the same opportunity as anyone, not a better one. Politicians might even get less.

Trust is not good deeds, good looks, or the right t-shirt. Context helps, but doesn’t guarantee it. If you come in a context I trust, I listen more easily. If some way you look like me or sound like me, I might offer trust more easily. Still the trappings don’t make the real thing. My decision to trust you does.

And trust isn’t unilateral or blind. One-way trust is a handing over of power. Blind trust goes against self-preservation.

What Is Trust?

Trust is a decision, a commitment, a pact and a bond that builds and connects. Trust is shared values. Trust empowers by the questions it removes.

Trust is brave and vulnerable. Trust is not sparing my feelings. Trust is the hard truth spoken gently.

Trust is knowing and believing, giving and receiving without hesitation. Trust is not wondering whether what I say is true, whether I will follow through, whether my thoughts and feelings will change when I’m talking to someone other. Trust is knowing you are safely invested and protected.

We can lose it before we have it or find where we least expect it. Trust can be given, but not invented, stolen, or demanded.

Trust is a delicate sculpture we build through relationship, communication, thoughts, and behaviors. Once it’s shattered we can’t glue it back together. The only replacement is remaking the sculpture. Like wellness, generosity, or kindness, we’re most reminded of its value when it’s gone.

In the end trust is knowing you are the same when I’m not there … Trust is keeping promises, even the unspoken promises. Not every trust relationship is that of two life-long friends who communicate with or without words. But imagine if that were so.

Trust is a risk, venture capital. It’s a gamble with a friend, a lover, or a business. Trust is us leading and leaning on each other when the outcome isn’t clear.

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When I don’t ask, when I’m not present, when I don’t even know that your actions might have been different,

when the reality is consistently …

I bet on you and I won.

trust is.

What is trust … to you?

–ME “Liz” Strauss

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Filed Under: Business Life, Successful Blog Tagged With: bc, define: trust, influence, LinkedIn, Liz, social-media, trust

SOB Business Cafe 10-16-09

October 16, 2009 by Liz

SB Cafe

Welcome to the SOB Cafe

We offer the best in thinking — articles, books, podcasts, and videos about business online written by the Successful and Outstanding Bloggers of Successful Blog. Click on the titles to enjoy each selection.

The Specials this Week are some of the SOBs of BlogWorldExpo

ChrisBrogan
To me, this is a large tapestry and we’re weaving the fabric of new stories together a little at a time. It’s okay if you don’t see it this way yet. I just want to share my perspective, if only to give you a fuzzy squint into what I believe is here, and what I think is coming with all this

What Human Business And the Social Web Are About


Web Strategy
Whether you’re a professional speaker, company representative, or panelist at a conference, you must develop a social strategy during your speaking.

How Speakers Should Integrate Social Into Their Presentation


Copyblogger
As I said, the question headline is very powerful. When used properly, it creates an almost irresistible draw to prospective readers, no matter how busy they are.

One Big Way to Avoid a Headline Fail


altitude
When it comes to social business practices, some companies just seem like they’re made to tuck them right in and truck along, uniterrupted. Others have a harder time shifting the tide, and this whole social media thing has got them paralyzed and flustered and wondering what the hell they’re going to do.

Social Media For the Risk Averse


Socialmedia.biz
While I think skepticism is in order, and the specifics of the government’s involvement need to be more clearly defined, in the end I believe the FTC’s move is a healthy and welcome development for social media.

BlogHer, the FTC, ethics and conflicts of interest


The Bloggess
Sometimes when I’m on twitter I forget that I’m looking at the home page and I think I’m in reply mode and I’m looking at all these responses and I’m all “Oh my God, these people love me. Just look at all of these new responses” and then I look closer and I’m all “WTF?

Updated: Not all of you are assholes


Related ala carte selections include

Congratulations to Snippets of Life!

Ten Years Of Blogging


Sit back. Enjoy your read. Nachos and drinks will be right over. Stay as long as you like. No tips required. Comments appreciated.

–ME “Liz” Strauss

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Filed Under: SOB Business, Successful Blog Tagged With: bc, Great Finds, LinkedIn, small business, social-media

Going Bankrupt in the Relationship Economy

October 15, 2009 by Guest Author

A Guest Post by Linda M. Lopeke

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Running a successful business comes down to how well you manage your numbers. Social media enthusiasts often rave about the new medium as an expressway for growing higher revenue. But building successful networks and communities is not about numbers, it’s about creating and sustaining high-trust relationships. Building relationships takes time and energy in both real life, business, and social media. Your statistics, as in “number of friends”, “number of social engagements attended”, and “number of followers” are not an indicator of your success in the relationship economy.

Businesses and marketers will spend over $350 billion on slick campaigns designed to attract you into entering into a relationship with them in the coming year. They want you to spend your conversational currency interacting with and responding to their ever growing number of advertising messages.

Some will produce meaningful and worthy content to seduce you into engagement. A few will respect and perhaps even admire you for the unique person/prospect/customer you are. Many will only add to the noise and clutter that bloat Twitter and every other social networking site in the universe; to them you’ll just be one of a number. Even fewer will get it right (after all Liz Strauss, Chris Brogan and others like them can only help so many people understand how to use social media properly at a time).

If you talk to everyone, how long will it be before your time and energy are exhausted, leaving you emotionally bankrupt, with nothing left to share with those with whom you once had a meaningful relationship?

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The SMARTSTART Coach, Linda M. Lopeke, writes at SmartStartCoach.com Her twitter name is @smartstartcoach

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Thank you, Linda!
–ME “Liz” Strauss

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Filed Under: Marketing /Sales / Social Media, Successful Blog Tagged With: bc, LinkedIn, social business

Ever Been on a Blog That Was Laid Out Like Las Vegas

October 14, 2009 by Liz

A Navigational Crap Shoot

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I’m leaving today for BlogWorldExpo in Las Vegas. The convention is a treat of Blog and New Media conversations, exhibits, and information. I look forward to catching up with old friends, getting some work done, and making some new things happen.

What dread is what it takes to navigate that city.

In Las Vegas, the shortest distance between two points is never a straight line. They’ve purposefully made it that way. I’m frustrated, beat up, and lose time whenever I try to find anyone or anything that isn’t the nearest casino. A round trip from the front desk to a hotel room easily can steal about 20 minutes.

Las Vegas is like a blog filled with shiny things that distract and divert people. Ever been on a blog or website like that?

Las Vegas doesn’t want me to be in my hotel room.
Some blogs don’t want me to read them.

  • When I arrive and have to close an ad before I can see anything, that blog doesn’t really want me to read it.
  • When I click to a new page and I’m asked to subscribe or buy, that blog doesn’t really want me to read it.
  • When the header or sidebar is filled with flash to pull my eyes away from the text, that blog doesn’t want me to read it.
  • When the colors vibrate with a hot red on a bright blue background, that blog doesn’t want me to read it.
  • When the fonts scream at me like a carnival barker, that blog doesn’t want me to read it.
  • When I can’t find the search box to get where I want to go, I really know then that …
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When we have all of the time in the world to get where we’re going diversions can be interesting and wonderful. But it’s not often that the luxury of time is with us. Make it easy for folks to find what they came for and they’re like to come back again to find the next thing.

Unless you want them to be lost in your casino.

Ever been on a blog like Las Vegas?

Hope to see you at BlogWorldExpo!

–ME “Liz” Strauss
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Filed Under: Blog Basics, Marketing /Sales / Social Media, Successful Blog Tagged With: bc, blog navigation, LinkedIn

How Do You Transition or Repurpose Content for the Web?

October 13, 2009 by Liz

Don’t Endow Me

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Anyone who has had to give a demonstration, deliver a report, or teach a class knows the importance of tuning the information to the audience. Anyone who been to a class that involves learning software knows that students is likely to include folks new to the subject and the most savvy experts who want to refine their skills.

Sharing information with people is easier, more efficient, and more meaningful …

  • when we’re speaking one-to-one and can tailor the information to that individual.
  • when the people receiving the information offer feedback about the information they’re receiving.
  • when we know the experience of the people who are receiving the information.
  • when all of the people who are receiving the information are from the same culture, speak the same first language, are at the same functional level, have the same skills, and relate to the topic the same way we do.

It’s hard to do these when we’re working with a group that is all in the same room. This problem becomes even more difficult on the web. Here, we’re tasked to share information meaningfully when we’re in a new genre and blind to the audience. We’re writing for an unknown number of people who could be from anywhere and know absolutely nothing on our subject or have significantly more experience than we do.

How Do We Write Meaningful Content for People We Can’t See?

Writing for the web gets easier when we realize the words carry a different load than words in print. Words online are lit and hit the eye differently. People access them with a different intent. It’s a different experience to read a device than to read a book. It’s different experience to read and respond to a blog than to read a newspaper and write an email back.

I’ve been repurposing content and publishing online and offline since the 20th century. Here are some tips about transitioning and writing content for the web.

  • Titles Are Invitations. The title of this post tells you exactly what you get by reading it. Had I more metaphorically called this Snapshots of Web Writing, you might have thought this would feature pictures and writing samples. Use a title to attract people who want exactly the content that will be under it.
  • Brevity is Beautiful. Fifty-one word sentences and half-page paragraphs don’t work with the backlighted, fast-paced format of the web. Attention in harder to keep in this visual venue. Long sentences lose their meaning before we get to the end of them. Long paragraphs have the same effect. Easy to read can still be intelligent … To be or not to be. is possibly the most easily read graduate level sentence ever written. Short words are powerful tool.
  • Subheads Are Relevancy Signposts that Show Respect. When we break up content with subheads, we give people a chance to know what’s coming next. Readers have so little time. When we offer a simple subject that telegraphs the idea in the next section, we allow them an option to choose whether to skip ahead. Who wouldn’t appreciate that to having to crawl through unwanted information searching for what we really need?
  • Everyone likes to learn. No one likes to be taught. Often we take our responsibility to share information so seriously that we undercut our own effectiveness. We stand at the podium hoping it will give us expertise so that our words will be heard. If we step away from being the “sage on the stage,” and instead take on the role of the “guide at the side,” we can share what we’ve learned rather than tell what we know.
  • Write for one person who wants to know what you know. It’s easy to get overwhelmed by writing to a diverse group. Think individuals and include yourself. It’s WE — the audience and me — not me and them. We write more effectively when we consider what we’d want to learn. Write for someone intelligent and savvy as yourself, who wants to know or be reminded of what you know.

Great titles, short paragraphs, small words, subheads for navigation, a learner’s voice, and content leveled and chosen by you as a partner with the audience <-- that's a formula for transitioning content to the web. Have you repurposed content for the web? What have you found works best? --ME "Liz" Strauss Liz can help with a problem you're having with your writing, check out the Work with Liz!! page in the sidebar.

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Filed Under: Blog Comments, Marketing /Sales / Social Media, Successful Blog, Writing Tagged With: bc, LinkedIn, repurposing-content, Writing

How Do You Capture Your Irresistible Ideas?

October 12, 2009 by Liz

Be Irresistible Instead

Every great movie star did a movie or two for the cash until he or she could do the movies he or she really wanted to do. That’s one thing. It’s fine to do if we know that’s what we’re doing. It’s a skill-building, bill-paying short-term strategy that works to keep us solvent.

But, if we’re not careful, we can get so busy doing, that we lose sight of the end game — the strategic goal out there on the horizon. While we’re busy making money to pay the rent, we can have outstanding ideas and let them get away while we work at things that don’t inspire us.

Work without inspiration steals energy. It keeps us in the same place or moving in the wrong direction.

What powers and fuels a career or a business is irresistible, value-added, real WOW ideas — what folks need, wish, and dream for — can’t live without ideas. Even if you’re working on something that’s boring, are looking for your own irresistible ideas that will head you to your own horizon? Here’s how to know one …

  1. An irresistible idea addresses the practical and the emotional simultaneously. Think of a great car that makes you feel something when you drive it. Irresistible ideas appeal to the child and the adult in us.
  2. I bought my Toyota MR-2 Spyder for many reasons. It had great performance specs — practical. It has its flaws — 1.9 cubic feet of storage space. The WOW is the faux titanium door handles — emotional. No other car has them, not any Porsche, Ferrari, BMW two-seater. I know. I look inside them all. They all look boring to me. Those door handles make my car look like it cost 3 times what it cost. It will also allow me to resell it much higher. And the dealer was willing to sell and service it at a great price — it fit into my life.

    An irresistible idea fits easily into our lives. We don’t have to work to buy that product, to learn a lot use it, or to explain it when we share it with our friends. Irresitible save us time, saves us money, or gives us a sense of ease and comfort.

  3. Irresistible ideas are in the details, not in giant bells and whistles.
  4. Every car has an engine and four wheels. Trying to improve on those gets you into trying to be original. Original is risky and expensive. Why not piggyback on what has been tested and perfected. Irresistible ideas come in the back and the side doors. They approach things from the inside out. They make things work better, feel softer, stop being a pain. Irresistible takes one part and makes it elegantly simpler.

    Irresistible ideas are joyfully unexpected. I still love the person who invented the wireless mouse.

  5. Irresistible ideas are authentic. Spectacular ideas can’t be knocked off with the same effect, because they came from customer-centered thinking. Gotta be Apple to make the iPod. Gotta be Iain Dodsworth to make TweetDeck. I can’t build your event or product your way, because you are the special sauce that makes it just right.

The most irresistible ideas come from where your passion and your intelligence cross with the places you spend the most time. We have more ideas than we might actually realize and when we’re busy working on something tiring it’s easy to forget them.

How do you capture your irresistible ideas?

–ME “Liz” Strauss
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Filed Under: Idea Bank, Marketing /Sales / Social Media, Successful Blog Tagged With: bc, ideas, LinkedIn, Marketing /Sales / Social Media, social-media

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